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    Old 05-17-2007, 10:59 PM   #1
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    I'm almost 30, going down the road of single forever. help!

    i've never had a gf and odn't meet any girls ever, ...and it doesn't seem like it will ever happen. i'm 27 now, and i fear that my 30's will be the same as all my life has been..a loner.

    how can I avoiod that?

     
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    Old 05-18-2007, 04:29 AM   #2
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    Re: I"m almost 30,, going down the road of single forever. help!

    Get out socialising. You must have some bloke mates...get down to a pub or something, or maybe somewhere a little more formal and just have a talk with with. Ask them to help, or if you arent that close to them, use being there with them as a way to feel confident going up to women.

    If they (or at least 1 of them) know what you are trying to do, then he will help with the confidence boost, and it is likely that having him there will make your job of approaching maybe 2 women a little easier.

     
    Old 05-20-2007, 02:05 PM   #3
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    Re: I'm almost 30, going down the road of single forever. help!

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    i've never had a gf and odn't meet any girls ever, ...and it doesn't seem like it will ever happen. i'm 27 now, and i fear that my 30's will be the same as all my life has been..a loner.

    how can I avoiod that?
    Would you please tell us a lot more about yourself? I don't mean too personal detail, but things like:

    1. Do you live in a big city?
    2. Do you live alone?
    3. Do you have a job? Does it pay you enough? What kind of job is it? Or do you still go to school (college)?
    4. What are your hobbies?
    5. What is a typical day for you like, for example?
    6. What do you look like (physical and/or non-physical description)?
    7. What are your goals in life, besides finding a gf?
    etc...
    This may help us give you some tips.

    Cheers.

     
    Old 05-20-2007, 09:23 PM   #4
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    Re: I'm almost 30, going down the road of single forever. help!

    30 is not the end of the world. My husband and his brother found their women only in their 40+. They came from a broken family and had fears of relationships.
    My brother-in-law only dated in school and than his current gf whom he met in his 40th.
    It is much harder for woman to find somebody when she is 30+ than for man.
    I would recommend to put a word among your friends, neighbours, family that you are looking. I don't believe that bars or internet is right place to meet a woman. You can also participate in singles events.

     
    Old 05-21-2007, 03:54 PM   #5
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    Re: I'm almost 30, going down the road of single forever. help!

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    I would recommend to put a word among your friends, neighbours, family that you are looking.
    trust me, the family will be looking for you even if you're not looking for yourself, . and its VERY annoying. its like its the worst thing in the world to be single when it really isn't.

    i don't think its easier for men to find women after 30. how do you figure that?? there are tons more single men out there than single women so there's always competition. for every girl i've ever been interested in, i was NEVER the only guy in her life trying something; on the other hand women draw straws and play rock/paper/scissors to see who will go out with me..its so funny, . it gets tougher as you get older.

     
    Old 05-21-2007, 08:09 PM   #6
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    Re: I'm almost 30, going down the road of single forever. help!

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    trust me, the family will be looking for you even if you're not looking for yourself, . and its VERY annoying. its like its the worst thing in the world to be single when it really isn't.

    i don't think its easier for men to find women after 30. how do you figure that?? there are tons more single men out there than single women so there's always competition. for every girl i've ever been interested in, i was NEVER the only guy in her life trying something; on the other hand women draw straws and play rock/paper/scissors to see who will go out with me..its so funny, . it gets tougher as you get older.
    I met my husband on a blind date arranged by the friend. I think it is the safest thing when person introduced to you by somebody you know. Lot of people met each other this way. Only big downside is you always has to give a report after the date and tolerate their critisism. If you have hard time meeting a girl why do you mind to be introduced.
    I came from the country where much more women than men and each woman wants to get married. At least it used to be this way.
    If there is a cituation like that in your area, may be you have to travel to meet somebody.
    I have 25+ relative who has good job and not bad looking and wants to get married, but is rejected all the time. Guys are often attracted to the wrong type. May be you look too much on good looks rather than personality.

     
    Old 05-23-2007, 02:43 PM   #7
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    Re: I'm almost 30, going down the road of single forever. help!

    Don't freak out. I started dating at 26, my best friend is 27 and single since birth. Don't put too much pressure on yourself about dating, it'll drive you nuts! But be open to meet people and to the possibility of going out with them.

     
    Old 05-24-2007, 06:40 AM   #8
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    Re: I'm almost 30, going down the road of single forever. help!

    "recommend putting a word among your friends"


    People always assume that every guy has friends. I dont. never had friends.

    "it just gets harder as you grow older"
    oh gosh, i knew it. So i may end up lonely forever. that sucks.

    To the guy who asked about myself, i'll make it short

    Skinny, i look like people with marfan's syndrome, i limp because i have knee problems and hip pains and back pains. I have a moustache and my typical day is work, come home, do my limited exercise( limited because arthritis and muscle tears that i have), then i do my hobbies which are art making, music, and reading and using web to post and readin forums and chat and voice chat. yes sometimes i have wonderful voicechats with girls..it's so fun...however they are mostly from another country because I know American girls hate me. never talked with american girls. American girls hate my personality..while foreign girls don't. That's so weird, but it's true. I'm shy and quiet and American think i'm trash because of that.

     
    Old 05-24-2007, 07:44 AM   #9
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    Re: I'm almost 30, going down the road of single forever. help!

    If you don't have friends, you probably have neighbours, coworkers, relatives who can look for somebody. If you have cetain type of disabilities, you can look for somebody who has similiar disabilities. They wouldn't act superior.
    Foreighn girls probably interested in you, because they want to get to US. Doesn't mean they necessary will be bad wifes and not appreciate you. In my former country, there are much more women than man and lot of men are alcoholics. You are taking risk with foreighn woman. May be it is a risk you want to take.

     
    Old 05-24-2007, 04:08 PM   #10
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    Re: I'm almost 30, going down the road of single forever. help!

    "it just gets harder as you grow older"
    oh gosh, i knew it. So i may end up lonely forever. that sucks.

    Hey, I got my first long-term boyfriend when I was 56. Meanwhile I got past the loneliness phase, which turned out not to be inevitable or insurmountable, and came to enjoy the good things about being single.

    The loneliest time of all was probably when I was in my late 20s like you.

    Best of luck.

    Last edited by xanadu2; 05-24-2007 at 04:08 PM. Reason: I added : Best of luck.

     
    Old 05-24-2007, 08:58 PM   #11
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    Re: I'm almost 30, going down the road of single forever. help!

    you just have to find the right person. dont give up.

    have you ever gotten to know any of your voice chatters well enough to invite them to visit you? that could spark an interest.

     
    Old 05-24-2007, 09:00 PM   #12
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    Re: I'm almost 30, going down the road of single forever. help!

    Try posting on the craigslist personals. you might get a reply

     
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