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Old 08-28-2008, 06:22 PM   #1
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he's changed since I've been gone....

I left for school at the beginning of the week which is about an hour or 2 from boyfriend of 4 months and I left on the whole "i'll miss you" terms things and that everything will be fine because I'll be coming home on some weekends and he'll be coming here for other weekends. Well, this week he's been different in the way he's been contacting me. We never have talked on the phone for morw than 2-3 times a week, but we were also with eachother like every weekend and once during the week. well its different now, i can't see him during the week. He was the first one to contact me via text message on mon-tues, then I called him tues night and we talked....but then i've been the one to contact him, texting, and his answers to my questions like how was your day or what he is up to is like a one word answer and asking me back....i dunno, he's just been short with me, and hasn't called me. He's made an effort to talk to me more when I was home...its only been 4 days, but i sense that he's being a little bit different...i feel that we should maybe talk on the phone more during the day instead of just texting/a phone call once at night time...what could be going on here???? we plan on seeing eachother this weekend, and im going to ask him about it.....but perhaps you guys can see something that I may not want to see? Thanks for your thoughts on this.

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Old 08-28-2008, 07:49 PM   #2
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Re: he's changed since I've been gone....

Hi Hazel,

Well, it's only been 4 days and there are several ways to look at this. 1). He has already begun to pull away from you knowing that you're in a different place and will more than likely meet new people and have new experiences that he isn't a part of, all this can be causing him to re-think the whole relationship thing and make him insecure.
2). It after all has only been 4 days! Maybe you are feeling insecure and reading things into his actions that simply aren't there at all.

Only time will tell and of course talking with him about your feelings. The weekend is just around the corner so try and not stress too much about it until you know something for sure. Long distance romances can be hard on the strongest bonds!


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