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Old 09-07-2008, 01:50 AM   #1
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Question boyfriend leaving....

ok so my boyfriend is leaving in about 2 weeks for boot camp.
he will be gone for 8 weeks and we cant talk or anything no contact at all.
well we have been dating 4 years and i have never not talked to him for a day at most.
right now he is working swing shift at work from 3 to about 1 in the morning so i rarely see him because he only gets the weekends off.
well all of a sudden he just wants to do his own thing on the weekends and just has been totally ignoring me lately and not wanting to see me as much. and he always used to tell me that he would barely survive without seeing me for that long now its totally flipped around and he only wants to hang out with his friends (which all his friends do is get high or drunk). i dont know what to think of the whole situation.
i have tried telling him how i feel but he seems to think im crazy for thinking that for some reason.

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Old 09-07-2008, 06:58 AM   #2
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Re: boyfriend leaving....

Well first he is going to have a very short stay at boot camp(if it is military) if he is hanging around friends that that getting high. Odds are if he is hanging around them he is probably doing the same. Which means when he gets to boot camp and they do a drug test on him he will fail.
As for no contact for 8 weeks not sure where you heard that but it isnt true. Granted you wont get the every day contact but he can make phone calls(very short ones) and write letters. Military boot camps no matter the branch arent going to cut off contact with friends and family.
He might be trying to get some space between to you two to get use to being away from you. Granted wrong way to go about it but guys think differently than women so you can chalk some of it to that. Or it could be a matter he is trying to get you mad at him to break it off before he goes to boot camp to.
You can try talking to him again and let him know how his current behavior is making you feel. Let him know that you are just wanting to get time in together before he leaves. But you have to realize he will also want time with his friends. And that is what he might be thinking.
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Old 09-07-2008, 04:23 PM   #3
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Re: boyfriend leaving....

Odds are he's trying to get in a whole lot of partying in before he heads off to boot camp and enters a whole different type of world. That being said, it's lousy that he's treating you with way. I agree with the previous poster - in boot camp, they are allowed to make short calls and write letters - an ex of mine was in the Marines and that's how we survived. I'd try talking to him again; otherwise, you'll know for sure how he feels once he's gone - once there he's either going to miss you like crazy and contact you as much as possible or the distance between you both will continue. At least then you'll have a definitive answer.

Hang in there and hope you get some answers soon.

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