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Boyfriends Friends are Cheaters.. What does that say about him??

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Old 06-03-2009, 08:18 PM   #1
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Boyfriends Friends are Cheaters.. What does that say about him??

My boyfriend & I have been together for 5 years. He is 24 and I am 23. We live separately. Recently he has been telling me stories about his friends cheating on their wives and girlfriends. In particular one of his male friends from work who is married with 2 children is cheating on his wife with a girl from work. Another of his friends has been with his girlfriend for 6 years, they have a house together but he frequents "massage parlors" and told my boyfriend how he received oral sex from a stripper. His closest friend has been dating a girl for about 2 years now and has cheated in every relationship before this girl. My boyfriend recently told me that the only reason he hasn't cheated on this girl is because he working 2 jobs at the moment and "doesn't have time". The last guy I mentioned seems to be a real nice, mature and responsible guy, who I always thought was a positive influence on my boyfriend, guess not. My boyfriends place of work is predominantly male and he regularly tells me that one guy or another is cheating. When he tells me this stuff he usually displays some disgust, particularly in the first example with the married guy and the girl from work. His wife was away for awhile with the kids and my boyfriend was telling me how he brought the mistress over to his house where his wife and children live to have sex. My boyfriend went on about how low that is and how he has lost all respect for him but a few nights ago my boyfriend went over to that guys house to play poker. I just don't know what this means. Why does he tell me about the cheating and than make sure to include stuff about how he would never cheat on me? He has also mentioned stuff about how if we ever broke up it would be hard for me to find another guy that wouldn't cheat on me since most every guy seems to cheat on their spouse. Should I be concerned? I don't know what to think...

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Old 06-03-2009, 08:50 PM   #2
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Re: Boyfriends Friends are Cheaters.. What does that say about him??

I honestly think it's a good sign that he is telling you these things. Not all men would, if they themselves were cheating or not. I wouldn't worry about his cheating just because his friends are doing it. If you had a girlfriend who you knew was cheating, would it make you more inclined to do it as well?

Until you get some proof or suspect through evidence that your BF is cheating....I wouldn't waste my time worrying over this.

Old 06-04-2009, 09:37 AM   #3
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Re: Boyfriends Friends are Cheaters.. What does that say about him??

I dont' know about this one. It could very well be that he is disgusted with all the cheating but that comment about you not being able to find someone if you broke up with him seems kind of off. He may be telling you all this because he's insecure and hes trying to "show" you that nobody else is any good except for him. There may be something else at play here. Also... sometimes people go on about something because they might be entertaining the thought themselves.

Of course - maybe I'm too cynical but if you're gut is telling you this is weird then always pay attention to it.

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