Need advice on boyfriend problems

01-02-2012, 02:30 AM

I've been dating this guy for quite a while now, and something that really bugs me is how negative he is about everything. He is constantly saying he hates everyone and everything and that he has so many problems in life, but can't be bothered to do anything about it.

Not only that, but if I bring up any problems in our relationship, then he immediately gets upset and angry. He then tells me to stop trying to give him advice or to change him because it's just making him depressed.

Now, I'm not actually trying to change him, I just want to help him when he says something is wrong, but I now can't do that.

Can anyone please help me? I'm at a loss of what I can do.

01-02-2012, 02:43 AM

He is playing the old "it's too hard" game. He gets to have somebody running after him without him putting any effort into the relationship. Call his bluff and leave him alone to stew now and then. If he says you are making him depressed (not possible, BTW), just shrug and leave him to it. Even if he is actually depressed, he needs to tackle it himself. You are only responsible for your own feelings, you cannot be responsible for anyone else's. Good luck, Sera

01-02-2012, 09:41 AM

Cube, I think there's a more important question you really need to ask yourself: "Why do I have such little regard for my own life, my own wants and needs, and my own precious time on this planet, that I am willing to waste it on a man who is so clearly unhealthy, unwilling to do anything to get healthy, and not emotionally or mentally able to be in a healthy, thriving, mature, mutually respectful relationship?"

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