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Old 10-04-2012, 12:32 PM   #1
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Unhappy Confusing attraction

I've been in a relationship for over 2 years now and I adore him so much. Just wanted to get that out there.
I've been going to the same coffee shop for about 3 years now, purely because the coffee is absolutely amazing, with the added benefit of a super attractive male barista. Over the last few visits the strangest things have happened. I become all flustered, I blush and worst of all I stutter every single time I see him.
So after 3 years of being served by him and a stupid subconscious reaction to him I finally found out his name (Antony)

Now I know that this is purely a physical reaction, to do with pheromones that he's producing which is obviously floating my boat... Primal instinct and all, finding the ideal mate to pass your genes down with etc but I really cannot be dealing with it. I made a commitment to my boyfriend. I'm not supposed to think of Antony in that way.

I need him out of my head! I want to be intimate with my boyfriend but he's not turning me on or anything like that. I need Antony out of my head so I can continue my relationship properly. I need advice on how to stop it. Do I confront the issue and work on it from there, cut him and the coffee shop out of my life or is this reaction to Antony something more which I should maybe look further into?

Please help

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Old 10-04-2012, 09:39 PM   #2
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Re: Confusing attraction

I mean, the obvious answer I'm sure you've thought of before but don't really want to do; just stop going there and find somewhere else to buy your coffee or even bring it from home (you'll probably save a ton of money too). Short of that, I don't know. It seems silly to me to keep making an effort to "be" in his presence when you realize it's creating turmoil in your brain. As long as you place yourself in the shop with him there, you're going to continue to have impulses firing off. So, why torture yourself? Just go somewhere else and try to turn your attention on your current mate and ways you two can "spice" things up. If, in fact, that's where your heart truly wants to be.

Good Luck!

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