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Old 01-15-2013, 04:41 PM   #1
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major stresser on the relationship

My bf and I have been together for over 2 years now. When we first got together we waited to have sex because we wanted to see if the relationship would last. After we had moved in together we had sex, a lot I may add. We use to do it multiple times a day everyday of the week. We use to try all sorts of positions, etc. Well needless to say my sex drive has decreased over time and now I'm at the point where I don't want to have sex like ever! This has been a big issue because my bf thinks I'm having sex with someone else or don't love him anymore and that's NOT the case. but I can not give him a reason why. I was recently diagnosed with anxiety and depression and was started on meds. I thought that would help but I almost feel like its made my sex drive even lower. I don't know what is happening and I want to fix it, cause I feel like I might ruin my relationship if I don't. :/

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Old 01-15-2013, 05:48 PM   #2
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Re: major stresser on the relationship

Medications can cause a decrease in sexual interest, as well as the depression and anxiety that are underlying. It is also very common for many women to loose that initial sexual drive that most of us begin our relationships with. Men on the other hand, do not have the same decline in libido, as they are much more driven by hormones that do not fluctuate as ours do.

Give yourself the time you need to adjust to the medications, (up to three to four weeks) and ask your boyfriend to be patient while you until things settle.

This might mean some changes in your sexual relationship, which is not a bad thing. We all need to keep things new and fresh, requiring good communication and teamwork to keep our sex lives satisfying for both parties.

In long term relationships, it takes constant attention to ourselves and our partners to keep that spark alive. Explain to your partner what you are feeling, and ask him for what you need from him.

Take care.

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