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    Old 03-31-2014, 08:59 AM   #1
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    Hi everyone, I am new here! I have an issue I am trying to resolve calmly...My best friend got engaged last summer, and she immediately asked me to be her maid of honor and I of course said yes! Her wedding is THIS summer. She lives about 3 hours away from me now, and we have been trying to get together since November (last time I saw her when she dropped off my dress for me). I have honestly, 100% been busy with work, I have canceled on our plans a couple of times. Over the weekend she asked me to meet up with her and her fiancee because they would be in town. I had plans already so I said I'm sorry but I am meeting someone for lunch. She got angry and sent a string of texts telling me to give back the dress and not to come to the wedding because I have been "avoiding" her. This is not true and I don't know why she's acting like this, we have been friends since high school and are now in our late 20s, I don't know what I did and what I can do to fix it?

     
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    Old 03-31-2014, 09:26 AM   #2
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    Re: Bride kicked me out of her wedding? Who is in the wrong here?

    it sounds like you just don't have the time necessisary to fulfill this obligation. I would send the dress back to her with a wedding gift and leave it at that......

     
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    Re: Bride kicked me out of her wedding? Who is in the wrong here?

    If it was my wedding and my maid of honor flagged me off and didn't seem invested in the wedding at all, I would kick her out too. It is such an important occasion, and yours is such a major role in it. It is more (much more) than just showing up on the day. You are her partner in the whole thing, and if you cannot do this then just step down with apologies. I get the work thing, but you could have canceled the lunch and any other things to devote this time to her. She will only be a bride once (at least for a while) so surely you could clear your time to be there for her. Sera

     
    Old 03-31-2014, 10:28 AM   #4
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    Thank you, all I can do at this point is apologize to her and keep going with my life. I am not originally from this country, so I had no idea what American weddings are like and what a maid of honor is responsible for. I just can't believe she would want to destroy our friendship over this and not want me to come to the wedding at all. But it is what it is, I suppose and I really appreciate your helpful input.

     
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