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Board: Hospice 09-16-2015, 09:11 PM
Replies: 4
Views: 2,151
Posted By Gabriel
Re: Decisions in the final stage

My parents also left living wills stating that they wanted no extraordinary treatment if their condition was terminal and incurable. We talked about this decisions before the time can for the final...
Board: Alzheimer's Disease & Dementia 09-12-2015, 10:24 PM
Replies: 11
Views: 2,899
Posted By Gabriel
Re: early onset dementia

Yes, you will get a lot of different responses and suggestions. My best advice is to grab what fits your situation, adapt what you can, and leave the rest. Each situation is different. What worked...
Board: Alzheimer's Disease & Dementia 04-30-2015, 10:31 PM
Replies: 1
Views: 1,436
Posted By Gabriel
Re: Where do I begin?

None ya, you explained to us that your brother has Downs and early onset dementia. This is the explanation for why he is doing what he is doing. With the developmental age of about 8 plus the...
Board: Alzheimer's Disease & Dementia 03-19-2015, 10:41 PM
Replies: 2
Views: 1,369
Posted By Gabriel
Re: Doctor wants to see her every two weeks

The answer to all your question is... it's impossible to tell with the information available.

Without reading the terms of the trust there is no way to know what is in it. Somebody has to have...
Board: Caregivers 03-02-2015, 11:41 PM
Replies: 5
Views: 3,201
Posted By Gabriel
Re: Should mom come home or go to assisted living?

rab, there could be many reasons why your POA sister does not want Mom to go to assisted living. Have you ask her why? Is it because she thinks that Mom would be better at home? It is her own fear...
Board: Alzheimer's Disease & Dementia 02-22-2015, 11:52 PM
Replies: 4
Views: 1,547
Posted By Gabriel
Re: Far reaching

The situation is terribly sad for you both. This disease not only affect the one with the disease but also those that love and care for the person with the disease. What I can say is each person...
Board: Alzheimer's Disease & Dementia 02-13-2015, 01:39 PM
Replies: 17
Views: 4,912
Posted By Gabriel
Re: Husband with moderate stage dementia

With any new med watch for side effects. It is always best to start or stop one medication and wait for at least 10 days to 2 weeks to see what changes happen. Check out the known side effects. If...
Board: Alzheimer's Disease & Dementia 02-11-2015, 05:43 PM
Replies: 17
Views: 4,912
Posted By Gabriel
Re: Husband with moderate stage dementia

anneh, calling the police should only be done when necessary. In most states there is a contingency which involves involuntary commitment for a designated period of time. In Florida I believe it is...
Board: Alzheimer's Disease & Dementia 02-04-2015, 11:51 AM
Replies: 4
Views: 2,190
Posted By Gabriel
Re: To treat or not to treat for stage 4 cancer with Alzheimer's

I like the Hospice inpatient facilities that I have had contact with. My FIL was in one after his stroke and a good friend went from a care facility to one locally. Mom and Dad were both in a care...
Board: Alzheimer's Disease & Dementia 01-29-2015, 09:33 PM
Replies: 4
Views: 2,190
Posted By Gabriel
Re: To treat or not to treat for stage 4 cancer with Alzheimer's

Baseball, you are right that it is difficult to make these types of decisions for another person but sometimes it is necessary. I believe you are on the right track with your thinking.

You have...
Board: Alzheimer's Disease & Dementia 01-25-2015, 11:42 PM
Replies: 6
Views: 4,617
Posted By Gabriel
Re: Déjà vu all over again

Muppet, the only one you are being unfair to is yourself. Remember you are human, not a super woman. We all carry baggage with us from past experiences. Just the fact that you are caring for him...
Board: Alzheimer's Disease & Dementia 01-17-2015, 09:05 PM
Replies: 5
Views: 1,274
Posted By Gabriel
Re: New at this game

Miss Muppet, knowing exactly the right thing to do is difficult in the best of situations. As for me, it would depend on how much your husband comprehends, understands, and retains. He set the path...
Board: Alzheimer's Disease & Dementia 01-09-2015, 01:52 PM
Replies: 5
Views: 1,279
Posted By Gabriel
Re: Opinion Please ...

Eisen... I am so sorry to hear about your Uncle. It sounds like he has been through so much.... and was such a wonderful person. My heart goes out to you and the rest of the family. I do hope you...
Board: Alzheimer's Disease & Dementia 01-06-2015, 09:52 PM
Replies: 5
Views: 1,279
Posted By Gabriel
Re: Opinion Please...

Very odd indeed! The lingual frenulum that attaches the tongue to the bottom of the mouth typically does not let the tongue go far enough back to block the airway. I wonder if there was swelling...
Board: Alzheimer's Disease & Dementia 12-30-2014, 08:31 PM
Replies: 10
Views: 2,092
Posted By Gabriel
Re: Is screaming normal?

Glad the doctor was able to identify the rash. Yes Fungal/Yeast infections are common with incontinence. Dark, damp areas are usually affected but it can be easily treated with topical medication. ...
Board: Alzheimer's Disease & Dementia 12-29-2014, 12:35 PM
Replies: 2
Views: 1,320
Posted By Gabriel
Re: Christmas Gifts Ignored

It is difficult to say exactly what is in her mind because each loved one with Alzheimer's is different. What I can say is that her reality is not the same as it was before and she will react...
Board: Alzheimer's Disease & Dementia 12-29-2014, 12:23 PM
Replies: 10
Views: 2,092
Posted By Gabriel
Re: Is screaming normal?

When Mom had such a rash I used Triple Paste Diaper Rash Ointment. It worked well to keep the skin protected from the wet diapers. This would be my first trial in the trial and error of finding...
Board: Alzheimer's Disease & Dementia 12-24-2014, 09:07 PM
Replies: 10
Views: 2,092
Posted By Gabriel
Re: Is screaming normal?

Then it is probably not the meds causing the problem but they are definitely not doing what they should. Hopefully the doctor will give him something different that will be effective.

A couple...
Board: Alzheimer's Disease & Dementia 12-24-2014, 01:36 PM
Replies: 10
Views: 2,092
Posted By Gabriel
Re: Is screaming normal?

Since you spoke of your Mum, I assume you are in the UK. I know your health system there is different from here in the US. What I can say is that your Dad needs a proper diagnosis. As I said in...
Board: Alzheimer's Disease & Dementia 12-23-2014, 08:03 PM
Replies: 10
Views: 2,092
Posted By Gabriel
Re: Is screaming normal?

Valerie, it is hard to say from what you have said here. Does he have Alzheimer's, Vascular Dementia, FTD, Lewy Bodies? Can I assume he is in the late stages of his disease?

Sleep disturbances...
Board: Alzheimer's Disease & Dementia 11-24-2014, 02:51 PM
Replies: 2
Views: 1,707
Posted By Gabriel
Re: Disappointed in nursing home

1 to 15 is not adequate at all. There should be no less than 2 to 15 and that's a low ratio. Here it is required by the state that there be 1 care manager (8 hours of care) for every 8 residents. ...
Board: Alzheimer's Disease & Dementia 11-15-2014, 09:42 PM
Replies: 3
Views: 1,552
Posted By Gabriel
Re: Trying to prepare for Mom going into nursing home

Yes, moving a parent to a care facility is difficult even at it's best but I will also say that it is not abandoning her. It is giving her the best care possible. When maintaining at home is...
Board: Alzheimer's Disease & Dementia 11-02-2014, 09:08 PM
Replies: 6
Views: 1,084
Posted By Gabriel
Re: What to buy for dad's birthday on Tuesday?

Sorry to hear he has a bowel blockage and hope he responds well to treatment. You can still just spend time with him. That is the best thing to do :) My thoughts and prayers are with you both.
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Board: Alzheimer's Disease & Dementia 11-01-2014, 06:20 PM
Replies: 6
Views: 1,084
Posted By Gabriel
Re: What to buy for dad's birthday on Tuesday?

Time is what he will appreciate most. Things are no longer important. Mom loved ice cream cakes so on her birthday I would bring an ice cream birthday cake, balloons with Happy Birthday on them,...
Board: Alzheimer's Disease & Dementia 10-15-2014, 10:56 PM
Replies: 7
Views: 3,553
Posted By Gabriel
Re: How do you tell someone with alzheimer's they have cancer?

Liz, isn't it amazing what stays with them and what is fleeting? Shifting focus is one of the major impairment that Mom had from early in the disease. She would obsess over some thing and be...
Board: Alzheimer's Disease & Dementia 10-14-2014, 09:30 PM
Replies: 7
Views: 3,553
Posted By Gabriel
Re: How do you tell someone with alzheimer's they have cancer?

The answer definitely depends on the person and stage of the disease. Ask yourself... Would she understand the conversation? Would she remember the conversation? Would she have the cognitive...
Board: Alzheimer's Disease & Dementia 10-08-2014, 03:12 PM
Replies: 1
Views: 2,102
Posted By Gabriel
Re: Mom at Stage 6 - waiting for spend down to get help

Be sure to check with an elder lawyer. Half of what your Mom and Dad own jointly belongs to Dad, half to mom. Therefore he doesn't have to spend it all on her. The is compensation for a house if...
Board: Death & Dying 09-15-2014, 09:30 PM
Replies: 4
Views: 2,821
Posted By Gabriel
Re: My darker thoughts

You are definitely not alone!! This is a slow cruel disease that leaves us with no hope of improvement. It just slowly erodes away the person we knew. We want an end, that we know is coming, to...
Board: Alzheimer's Disease & Dementia 09-15-2014, 11:57 AM
Replies: 7
Views: 4,218
Posted By Gabriel
Re: Very Rapid Decline

I am so sorry for your loss! No matter the circumstances we are not ready to lose our parents but it sounds like you had a true celebration of his life. It sounded beautiful :) My wish for you...
Board: Alzheimer's Disease & Dementia 09-14-2014, 10:39 PM
Replies: 7
Views: 2,702
Posted By Gabriel
Re: Any Suggestions Would Be So Appreciated

Yes, drag him kicking and screaming to a meeting if necessary. Speak up and explain your situation and let him hear others talk about their loved ones. There are also some great books and videos if...
Board: Alzheimer's Disease & Dementia 09-08-2014, 10:39 PM
Replies: 7
Views: 3,426
Posted By Gabriel
Re: Please ... someone help. Husband early stages of dementia

Saya - I am not sure where you are from but you did exactly what you needed to do. Your first priority is to protect yourself and your son. Hopefully your husband will get a psychological...
Board: Alzheimer's Disease & Dementia 08-20-2014, 08:07 PM
Replies: 129
Views: 16,107
Posted By Gabriel
Re: Hallucinations

He is in a world of his own, created by the dementia. The night time confusion is called sundowning and can make for a long night. Have you discussed this with his doctor. Medication may be...
Board: Alzheimer's Disease & Dementia 07-22-2014, 02:49 PM
Replies: 129
Views: 16,107
Posted By Gabriel
Re: Hallucinations

Yes, caring for somebody at home is not easy. There is more to it than we we first think. Your Mom is probably going to need help. In the short term you think you can but over time it become...
Board: Alzheimer's Disease & Dementia 06-28-2014, 08:27 PM
Replies: 129
Views: 16,107
Posted By Gabriel
Re: Hallucinations

He is in the hospital, just had surgery, and definitely out of his normal routine. It is all traumatic. So see what tomorrow will bring. Hopefully there are no more infections and he will recover...
Board: Alzheimer's Disease & Dementia 06-27-2014, 09:53 PM
Replies: 129
Views: 16,107
Posted By Gabriel
Re: Hallucinations

Be patient, it may take some time. He has just had another surgery, anesthesia, and perhaps even pain medication. You may see improvements in the gait and incontinence first. That is where you...
Board: Alzheimer's Disease & Dementia 06-25-2014, 02:11 PM
Replies: 3
Views: 1,434
Posted By Gabriel
Re: What should I do?

Call Elder Services/Social Services/Department of Aging in your state and report what you know. They will have to investigate and then it is in their hands to get the services he needs. Yes, you...
Board: Alzheimer's Disease & Dementia 06-24-2014, 06:20 PM
Replies: 129
Views: 16,107
Posted By Gabriel
Re: Hallucinations

that is truly good news Valerie. I will keep you both in my thoughts and prayers! Please let us know how it goes.

Love, Deb
Board: Alzheimer's Disease & Dementia 06-14-2014, 04:08 PM
Replies: 3
Views: 1,781
Posted By Gabriel
Re: The grief and feeling of loss...

Then he is getting good care. That is a typical but difficult stage between ambulatory and non ambulatory for many with dementia. The brain tells them to stand up but the legs will not hold them...
Board: Alzheimer's Disease & Dementia 06-11-2014, 08:04 PM
Replies: 2
Views: 2,463
Posted By Gabriel
Re: Is life over once diagnosed?

No, your life is not over once you are diagnosed. I know many that are living well with dementia. We fear this disease more than any other disease. I am here to tall you that you can live well...
Board: Alzheimer's Disease & Dementia 06-03-2014, 01:54 PM
Replies: 129
Views: 16,107
Posted By Gabriel
Re: Hallucinations

I get that Valerie. It is difficult to grasp the reality that she is faced with. We want hope. Especially in the beginning when we are trying to process traumatic information, we protect ourselves...
Board: Alzheimer's Disease & Dementia 06-02-2014, 05:40 PM
Replies: 129
Views: 16,107
Posted By Gabriel
Re: Hallucinations

I am so sorry Valerie. I hoped it would not turn out this way but at this point you have to listen to the doctor and their prognosis and make decisions that will not be easy.

I am not sure where...
Board: Alzheimer's Disease & Dementia 05-23-2014, 08:46 AM
Replies: 129
Views: 16,107
Posted By Gabriel
Re: Hallucinations

Hopefully he will... and know my thoughts and prayers are with you both for a good outcome.

Love, deb
Board: Alzheimer's Disease & Dementia 05-22-2014, 08:38 PM
Replies: 129
Views: 16,107
Posted By Gabriel
Re: Hallucinations

I would ask for a second opinion on the antibiotic. If they know there is an infection somewhere why just sit and wait. Did they do a urine specimen? Test for sepsis? Just because it is not on...
Board: Alzheimer's Disease & Dementia 05-18-2014, 11:33 AM
Replies: 6
Views: 3,616
Posted By Gabriel
Re: Long term care, no family support or $

SOTM, much depends on your location since Medicare/Medicaid is a function of the state you are in but the answer to your question is that most states do have facilities that accept Medicaid. ...
Board: Alzheimer's Disease & Dementia 05-08-2014, 08:57 PM
Replies: 129
Views: 16,107
Posted By Gabriel
Re: Hallucinations

Valerie, it is not uncommon for one with dementia to get stuck on an idea, especially when it was traumatic. Memories of his stay in the hospital obviously processed through the fog of his mind. ...
Board: Alzheimer's Disease & Dementia 05-04-2014, 10:32 PM
Replies: 129
Views: 16,107
Posted By Gabriel
Re: Hallucinations

Valerie, no they can not force you but you do need to consider your options. Nursing homes have a bad rap. There are good ones and not so good ones. You hear or the worst and not the best. What...
Board: Alzheimer's Disease & Dementia 04-15-2014, 06:10 AM
Replies: 13
Views: 1,487
Posted By Gabriel
Re: Please help me with my grief

Cockateils... STOP! Please stop. The mind can come up with more ways to blame yourself or others than there are facts to repute. What if? Why? In a perfect world, in the best of circumstances,...
Board: Alzheimer's Disease & Dementia 03-27-2014, 07:11 AM
Replies: 129
Views: 16,107
Posted By Gabriel
Re: Hallucinations

Valerie, that was my fear for your Dad and I am so sorry it has become a reality but there is hope that he will beat this as well and it will only be a small set back. No, he can not follow...
Board: Alzheimer's Disease & Dementia 03-25-2014, 08:56 PM
Replies: 129
Views: 16,107
Posted By Gabriel
Re: Hallucinations

That will be a huge step forward. If he can sit, walk around, and have some food I am sure he will feel better... and it's good for his lungs as well. I will continue the good thoughts and prayers...
Board: Alzheimer's Disease & Dementia 03-25-2014, 10:00 AM
Replies: 129
Views: 16,107
Posted By Gabriel
Re: Hallucinations

That is great news Valerie and just what I needed to hear today. Glad they found the problem and could fix it. Yes, it is difficult for him to understand instructions but do the best you can. ...
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