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Old 10-26-2005, 08:58 PM   #1
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The issue is why won't some men ejaculate inside a woman even when they are using birth control? I have dated a few guys, and of those, 2 would not ejaculate inside. The 1st guy who wouldn't ejaculate said that he just never did it. He was previously married and they had a son, so when I asked about the miracle conception he said that that was the only time he ever ejaculated inside a woman and he hadn't planned on doing it. After that, I was in another relationship and had no trouble in this department. However, my current boyfriend - I almost had to choke him to make him ejaculate inside me. He does do it a bit more now, but frequently forgets and withdraws. I really truly feel closer to a guy if he ejaculates inside me instead of outside, so I do not like the ejaculating outside all the time - once in a while is okay, but not every time. I use birth control (the patch) very diligently, so there is no fear of pregnancy. So why do some guys do this? I thought it feels better for them if they don't have to withdraw at the moment of orgasm. Please explain.

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Old 10-26-2005, 10:30 PM   #2
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Re: He will not ejaculate inside me

I guess some may feel insecure, eg afraid that you may not be on the pill etc but claimed to be. As one of your ex said that the only time he ejaculated, he got a son.

I'm a guy btw.

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Old 10-27-2005, 08:25 AM   #3
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Re: He will not ejaculate inside me

I tend to agree somewhat with myhealthybody, in that some guys may have had negative experiences of being told his partner was on birth control only to find out later she wasn't, for whatever reason. If that is the case, then there are some trust issues he needs help working out. I don't mean to sound like a jerk, honestly, but if there is any kind of issue, it needs to be addressed and resolved so your relationship can grow.

Then there are those guys who enjoy re-enacting what they view in a porn film, they have developed the idea that porn is the norm for sesual relationships. I'm not saying that is the case here, but it has happened.

Good luck!

Old 10-27-2005, 12:15 PM   #4
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Re: He will not ejaculate inside me

Originally Posted by RegularGuy7
I never ejaculate inside of her. Even when my wife is on the pill AND I use a condom, I still don't do it. We cannot risk having a baby. Plain and simple.
When there are circumstances involved that make having a baby a hardship, then what you are doing makes sense. I didin't get if such circumstances were a factor for cychrys. Personally, I have had a vasectomy, so my partner doesn't have to worry about hormones and health issues messing with her body. I do ejaculate inside her, she also feels that we are closer together if we can share that intimacy, and it does feel good.

But as to why others would do it, I think that without more information, we can merely speculate.

Old 10-28-2005, 09:50 PM   #5
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Re: He will not ejaculate inside me

My boyfriend says that when he orgasms he kind of looses a little bit of control, and if hes still inside he cant move it in and out that much, so he pulls out to use his hand. Maybe this is one of those cases, it just feels better for the man to use his hand than to ejaculate inside.

Old 10-29-2005, 09:23 AM   #6
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Re: He will not ejaculate inside me

I myself ocassionally wil do it inside but it has to be at the time when it is most likely NOT to get her pregnant, still even then I just feel more comfortable pulling out, besides most of the woman I have been with including my current girlfriend prefer that I withdraw because they dont care to leak for the next day.As far as guys ejaculating on the woman we usally do this as I said when we do not use protection at the right time however not because either of us want to be porn stars as one post stated but most of the time we just use condoms they are fairly safe , no side effects unless you have a laytex allergy minimal clean up.

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Old 10-29-2005, 09:23 AM   #7
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Re: He will not ejaculate inside me

Have you asked him why he does this? If you're in an intimate relationship, you ought to be able to explore this issue together. I think that's the only way you'll get a valid answer to the question. Otherwise the rest of us are really just speculating.

Old 11-04-2005, 07:41 PM   #8
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Re: He will not ejaculate inside me

My girlfriend takes her pill religiously, but I never have and never will ejaculate inside of her. Mainly it is the same as one of the reasons posted above: we are both almost finishing college, only 21 and having a baby is not something that either of us could handle right now.

It does feel better to ejaculate inside... but it's not worth 10 extra seconds of pleasure to me to wind up having some fluke happen and have my girlfriend get pregnant. I would use both condoms and the pill if I could, but she is extremely sensitive to latex and it irritates her to the point where it interferes with our sex life.

You should just talk to him about it, maybe he has a good reason.

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Re: He will not ejaculate inside me

Non-latex condoms are available at pharmacies.

Old 11-05-2005, 05:16 PM   #10
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Re: He will not ejaculate inside me

Men won't ejaculate inside a women often because they fear being forced into parenthood. Women have options galore when faced with pregnancy. Men have no choices and are completely at the mercy of the woman. Therefore it would be just plain stupid to ejaculate inside a woman unless one was absolutely certain beyond any doubt that he wanted to be parent. No matter what the woman says about birth control, in the end it doesn't matter if she tricked him. All that matters is the DNA test. Fraud, deception, prior agreement, none of this means anything in any in court. There is no defense. The only defense is preventative. You should get used to men doing this. It's going to keep getting more and more common until the law changes.

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