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Old 11-03-2011, 06:25 PM   #1
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Wife is selfish in bed.

My wife is one sided in her views with regards to everything. She is extremely double standard. Anyway, we have good sex and I am an expert at making her have orgasms in various ways. She has a lot of hang-ups. She doesn't believe in touching a man to make him ***. She will tell me that she doesn't like it and that it makes her angry if I want her to touch me. She will perform oral without having to really ask. But my problem is that I don't always ejaculate from us having intercourse. One reason is that she orgasms way too fast and will say that we need to stop and I may have not had an orgasm, however I want to have one too, so when I ask her to lay beside me and touch me she will do it occasionally without looking at me; without much effort; she won't kiss me or talk dirty to me. She will tell me that she doesn't know what to say.

Now look at this: when I touch her she wants me to create a fantasy situation and talk to her about it while I touch her. She usually has to have wine and if we are looking at porn on the net she will complain about every scene that I choose even though I am picking out the stuff she likes to see. She likes for me to touch her while we watch the movie to get her off. We used to argue about why she wouldn't touch me back while watching a movie. She finally does it now, but she only thinks about her pleasure and will argue with me about it. She thinks a man is only supposed to ejaculate from intercourse. She really doesn't care if it upsets me that things haven't gotten better. She will let me storm off in anger and she will just fall asleep. That pisses me off that she is satisfied and I am not!

I cannot ever see myself cheating on her; I am not that type of guy, but why would a woman be this way. I give her pleasure 99% of the time to her literal 1% towards me. I have told her that I feel like she could care less what I get out it. She was single for a long time and would just mess around with different guys. She said she never touched any of them and they had to get it up themselves...
Additionally, I love to give women oral sex and have become very good at it. Well, she has told me since day one that she doesn't like it if I initiate it. She has to want it; which is not often enough. I feel like I cannot be myself with her. We never just go with the flow. She will demand that things be a certain way or she will act as if she is unsatisfied. Who wants that I just continue to do things her way... Married only a year...

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Old 11-07-2011, 11:38 PM   #2
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Re: Wife selfish in bed

good Story..........

Old 11-08-2011, 08:19 PM   #3
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Re: Wife selfish in bed

The only person to get the right answer from is the source itself. If you don't communicate with her about your feelings, then what's the point of being married? (I didn't mean for that to sound rude but if you guys have been married for THAT long, you should be able to talk about the simple stuff like sex.) There's no reason why you shouldn't talk to her about this.

Honestly? I wouldn't initiate sex at all with her and see what happens. (I know it'll be difficult but really try to tough it out.) See if she initiates sex within the first week or two. If she doesn't, then I would talk to her about it most definitely. Explain that you feel as though she doesn't care about the pleasure you get in bed, if any at all. She may help you get off "the easiest way" which isn't fair and she needs to know that maybe spending a little more time on you sexually might stimulate your relationship and put the spark back where it needs to be. It's what you need from her right now and if she can't give you that spark then maybe counseling would help you both communicate and have a better understanding of each other. Best of luck =)

Old 11-22-2011, 10:57 AM   #4
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Re: Wife selfish in bed

Sounds like the 2 of you are just sexually fix for that.

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