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Old 11-12-2013, 10:55 AM   #1
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I feel slightly better about my situation after reading several posts regarding masturbation. My husband and I are in our 50's, and together about 20 years. We have no kids together, just grown kids from previous marriages. As with most couples, we started out with a healthy sex life and within the past two years, he has had a difficult time maintaining an erection. Instead of trying other methods of satisfying each other, he just doesn't show interest in me or sex, other than a quick roll in the hay maybe every other weekend or so, where he doesn't even look at me. I have interrupted him twice now masturbating to porn, once in bed and once on the sofa. Both times he was embarrassed and initially I was shocked and hurt. Yesterday we attempted to have sex in the morning, but he could not perform. Later that day when I was out running errands, he apparently got in the mood and attempted to get off while watching porn, but I interrupted by coming home unexpectedly. SO, should I just accept this behavior? We rarely have sex and he shows little interest in me, but it's okay to seek pleasure online? How should I talk with him? We slept in separate rooms last night.

 
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Old 11-12-2013, 11:13 AM   #2
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YES, You should talk to him and make him see this is totally unacceptable in a happy relationship.
Exchanging a proper sexual relationship for masturbation is not on.
Lack of maintaining an errection (erectile disfunction) is not an excuse as there is treatment from his Dr for this problem.
The longer he turns to masterbation for relief then the harder it will be to return to a sexual relationship with you.
If the spark has gone out of your relationship in other ways as well then Marriage Guidance might be an option but before that he has to want to change,

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Old 11-12-2013, 11:30 AM   #3
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At the very least your husband should go to a Urologist to get his testosterone checked.

Also ask if his doctor will prescribe Cialis for daily use.

 
Old 11-18-2013, 08:51 AM   #4
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Finally got the nerve up to talk my husband about this issue. He agrees that there is a problem. He admitted to needing the sexual release through masturbation and wants to regain a healthy sex life with me. He said sex is boring with me, like being with a grandma. I offered to watch porn with him and he said, "yeah right, like you'd like that". Well, at least I offered... I'll just have to initiate that I guess. He also agreed that he should see a doctor, but wants to find a new doctor. I suppose that's a start and it does feel good to have finally had a conversation. He does love me and he says anyway, that he is attracted to me still. I need to figure out how to step it up a notch and stop being so routine and boring!

 
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