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Partner keeps putting off testing

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Old 03-08-2014, 06:39 PM   #1
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Partner keeps putting off testing

I had unprotected anal sex with my boyfriend. I'm. A virgin and he has had two partners prior to me. He claims that im his first partner in 2 years and that he has used a condom with both his partners and has never given or received oral sex before. During our encounter he did not ejaculate at all.

Regardless, I want him to get tested. I've been tested but most accurate results won't show up for me because the exposure for me was recent, whereas for him it's not. Because of me pressuring him to get tested, he has broken up with me. That's fine. I just want to know if he is clean.

Every time I get in contact with him, he tells me he's going to get tested but something always comes up. At this point I'm starting to get both suspicious and worried.

What can I do to make him take this more seriously?
Waiting 1-3 months for my accurate results seems impossible and unfair, especially when it takes TWO people to have sex. I feel like the only responsible one in this situation. I also feel like him leading me under false pretenses, constantly telling me he's going to get tested but isn't going through with it, is illegal. Help?

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Old 03-11-2014, 12:33 AM   #2
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Re: Partner keeps putting off testing

I hate to say it but I think you are being a little unrealistic. He isn't obliged to get tested and he's probably just saying he will to you to get you off his back.

As far as it being legal, I'm pretty sure he's allowed to do that. What people aren't allowed to do is have sex with someone without divulging their HIV+ status -- IF they know they are HIV+.

I think you should just resign yourself to waiting and test again later. It's not like the results will change with his getting tested, and you can't make him do it.

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