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Old 03-19-2014, 09:59 AM   #1
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Unhappy HELP Caught Boyfriend replying to "Personals" Ads W4M

So last night my boyfriend of almost 2 years left his email up on my laptop - I checked the sent messages and he had replied to a ton of kinky and rather disgusting "personals" craigslist ads. The most recent one was from Jan. of 2013 when we had taken a week "break" from each other due to me finding condoms in a bag he'd taken to Orlando with him for New Years - none were used but the intent was obviously there. The last email before that was in Oct. of 2012. AND there's about 50-100 emails prior to that date. We started dating in July of 2012 but we're really "serious" until around Sept. of 2012 - All of these emails were sent when we first started dating and were broken up for a week in Jan.
The emails are NASTY - he was sending pictures of himself, asking to meet up, that he was into S&M stuff and describing what he wanted to do to these ladies. He even sent a few pictures of his penis!!
What in the world should I do!? We moved in together about a year ago and he's been so wonderful to me! He swears he never met up with any of these women and doesn't know why he did it. He said he just has a sex/porn addiction and wants to get help for it.
Should I run in the other direction or stick it out with him and learn to try and trust him? I feel like he could do this again.....even though it was a long time ago we were together at that time!
Ugh, all of this has me sick to my stomach and I'm lost.

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Old 03-19-2014, 02:55 PM   #2
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Re: HELP Caught Boyfriend replying to "Personals" Craigslist Ads W4M

you know what to do.....you are sick to your stomach, listen to your GUT in more ways than one......why would you even think of staying with him?

 
Old 03-19-2014, 03:15 PM   #3
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Re: HELP Caught Boyfriend replying to "Personals" Craigslist Ads W4M

"Just a sex/porn addiction"?

Those just don't go away by themselves. Compulsions, by nature are difficult to manage, subject to relapse and destructive to relationships. Sufferers learn to be very manipulative and are often charming.

I would use his past behavior to best predict his future behavior. Wishing you the choice that is the best for you.

 
Old 03-19-2014, 04:17 PM   #4
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Re: HELP Caught Boyfriend replying to "Personals" Craigslist Ads W4M

Hi, well, seeing as how you have lived happily for a year with no problems regarding his sex/porn issues, maybe he has changed his ways but it would be best on your part to always be vigilant regarding his activities, trust but verify. Me, in my younger days before Aids I was a bit scummy trolling for women on the streets of Miami taking them home, doing them, taking pictures of them as trophys and just throwing them out of my house. Then I met my future wife (not on the street) and I stopped this activity because for me love changed everything and I did not feel the need to be with another woman so hopefully this is what happened in your case also and you have nothing to worry about. All the best

 
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