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Old 08-12-2014, 12:12 PM   #1
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Hopeing for some answers. My husband & I have been together for 21yrs we have to children 17 & 9 we went separate ways for awhile but 2wks after throwing his cheating a$$ out I found out I was pregnant I didn't want him to know but my big mouth sister said he had the right ( she was right ) well he begged me to take him back I just wanted to raise my baby myself I took him back he is 40 & I'm 37 i have a low self esteem & I'm so heart broken over him it's not all is fault it's mine too I guess I brought it on all myself when he wanted to be itament which was every night I didn't want to it was all about him never about me so why would I want to so most of the time I would give in if I didn't he would huff & puff toss & turn & sigh he always said wait till your 30 & in your prime you'll be the same way well I'm not it must be because it's all about him he watches porn & masterbates to it I caught him yrs ago doing that so I said why don't we watch one together of coarse he picks them out with in 5 seconds of watching it he starts master bating & expects me to be all hot & wet not I have tried everything to help keep us together I even let him talk me into a threesome I've let him do things to me that I was very unconfernt doing toys anal u name it I've done it he has even used a toy on his self yes anal I ask him to masterbate in the shower instead of waiting for me to fall asleep he grosses me out so bad I have asked him several times why do you have to do that his reply is always the same it feels better he has had me do it for him he'll sand naked shaking it @ me want some of this or he'll say want to or hey let's go f of hey get on & ride it I always do things to let him know I would like to have *** or ask him to have *** I get turned down I've tried talking to him about it he just gets angry & starts yelling so I guess master bating is better he's not the one picking the sock or underware up that is if there isn't a towel hang up or forgets to grab one I'm going on strike so when all the towels sock underware ect. Dirty then maybe he'll get the hint I doubt that he'll itch with a b in front hint

 
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Old 08-12-2014, 12:46 PM   #2
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Re: Please help

What are you asking for here? I can give you my opinion which is that you cannot change him; there are three options here - first, carry on like now, accept that this is your life; secondly, go to counselling and try to improve things, and, thirdly, kick him to the kerb and mean it. It is all down to you. Sera

 
Old 08-12-2014, 05:43 PM   #3
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What are you asking for here? I can give you my opinion which is that you cannot change him; there are three options here - first, carry on like now, accept that this is your life; secondly, go to counselling and try to improve things, and, thirdly, kick him to the kerb and mean it. It is all down to you. Sera
Thank you I know I was all over the place when writing this I just don't understand the master bating part I have mentioned counseling he is to big of a man for that I have excepted it when I took him back I came from a broken home I realized I don't want that for our children I always put them first & when I was able to work it was 2nd then him but the master bating bothers me & always did I'm right there that should be done in private like in the shower

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Old 08-13-2014, 08:54 AM   #4
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Hi Unwanted,

I think he is doing this to "wind you up"...
He knows it annoys you and will continue doing so.
As for his cheating and masturbating, in such a manner as to annoy you then if it was me I'd show him the door, end of story!!...

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