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Is a traumatic experience the reason for me hating sex?


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Old 11-29-2014, 03:08 PM   #1
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I hate having sex and everything about it I have been with my fiancé for 4 years and it's starting to distance us. I want more than anything to have the same sex drive as him and enjoy it but I really don't. I feel really awkward and embarrassed when I know his trying to make a move and find myself making excuses all the time. When I was young I had a traumatic sexual encounter which took place which he is very understanding about but I wonder whether it's that that triggers my mind to not want sex or is it just another excuse.

Please help with any ideas or experience would appreciate it so much!!!

 
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Old 11-30-2014, 09:52 AM   #2
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Re: Is a traumatic experience the reason for me hating sex?

Hi Naomi, well it is certainly possible your previous traumatic experience is the reason to this aversion to sex. However it is difficult to pin it down exactly because there are some women who have an aversion to sex who have not experienced early traumatic experiences. Another possibility is that your hormone levels are out of whack so perhaps get those levels checked. Therapy is also an option for you because it could pull back some of the layers of your subconscious so you could perhaps work it out within yourself. It is good that your boyfriend is understanding because some men would flee so he must really love you. I hope that you both can work this out......

 
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I hate having sex and everything about it I have been with my fiancé for 4 years and it's starting to distance us. I want more than anything to have the same sex drive as him and enjoy it but I really don't. I feel really awkward and embarrassed when I know his trying to make a move and find myself making excuses all the time. When I was young I had a traumatic sexual encounter which took place which he is very understanding about but I wonder whether it's that that triggers my mind to not want sex or is it just another excuse.

Please help with any ideas or experience would appreciate it so much!!!


"Hi,

Do you take the B.C.Pill because for some women it can have an adverse effect on your sex drive.
If you do then you could change to another form to see if that would help"

Solofelix.

 
Old 11-30-2014, 04:47 PM   #4
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Re: Is a traumatic experience the reason for me hating sex?

I do take the pill so maybe I will try taking an alternative instead of the pill and see if that helps.

Also I have always had therapy in the back of my mind but also felt embarrassed to go ahead with it.

Thank you both do much for your help really appreciated.

 
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