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Old 12-06-2004, 10:55 AM   #1
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Debbi~B HB User
Question How long does it takes?

Hoping someone here can help me.....

(If you don't have the time to read this long post)
Can you tell me how long before Testosterone replacement patch (androderm 5mg) starts to work?

When I met my husband 20 months ago the first time we tried
to have sex, he could not get an erection. He said it had
never happened to him before. He was 42.
I was VERY understanding, told him it didn't
He went to a urologist and they did bloodwork that showed
he had low testosterone. He brushed it off.

He refused replacement therapy as he had been a
weightlifter and had done anabolic steroids, and said
replacement therapy was the same thing.
He ordered viagra and cialas off the Internet.
Yes, it helped at times (sometimes only semi erect) with
him getting an erection but as the months went on, it
didn't work as well.
What changed the most was the man who was a kind,
sweet...laughing, joking, playful and fun person, changed
into a bitter angry cruel old man, who was always tired,
always complaining and tired. He cries VERY easily

In the last year he lost his mother to cancer,(Jan) we got
married, bought a new home and then his dad died 9 months
(Oct.)after his Mom. Our marriage has turned into HELL.
Finally he went to a psychologist. and was diagnosed
chronically depressed.
He was being treated with Welbutrin. It did NOT help...If
anything things have gotten worse!!!!!!

I have tried my best to be compassionate and understanding
for months now. Over and over I am verbally and emotionally
abused. Its horrible.

FINALLY after almost begging, he agreed to go to a DOCTOR
who told him his testosterone was VERY low. 240, I think is
what he said.
He told him stop taking the welbutrin and put him on the
androderm 5 mg patch. He said he felt this would show him
a "100% improvement".

He had an appointment with his Psychologist, right after.
He told him that the Dr had taken him off the welbutrin and
about the issue of low testosterone.
His psychologist ask him " how do YOU feel about this".He
also told him next week he wants my husband to go thru
more " psychological assessment tests"
From what my husband said , I think his psychologist,
thinks its more then just depression. And its more then low
I have went with him for counseling several times and we
talked about our marriage and the problems we were having

After a 22 year marriage (NO abuse whatso ever) I was
divorced then met this wonderful man I THOUGHT I
knew......we married after 11 months. And it has now turned
into a nightmare!

I am truly lost here. My marriage is almost over. Could it
just be the low testosterone, that is causing this man I
love to be like this?
How long before I will possibly start seeing the man I knew
How long does it take before the patches start
working....Or am I grasping at straws here?
Sorry so long...


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Old 12-06-2004, 11:31 AM   #2
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Re: How long does it takes?

Hi Debbi - I don't know if this helps...but this is all I can say...

My BF has been taking anabolic steroids (he's 25) and was also taking testosterone b/c it was low while on the steroids...he became a MONSTER!!!! VERY verbal and emotionally abusive...I made him stop taking everything and he's somewhat back to normal but now even the smallest amount of alcohol brings him back that way...he was never like that before - so I attribute it to the steroids and testosterone.

It seems to get better week by week - but he's not fully back to normal yet.

Hope this helps. Maybe this is the reverse side of it - he may have had too much in his body and your DH may not have enough - but has the same side effects (mean, abusive, violent, etc.)...weird....

Good Luck! and keep us posted!

Old 12-08-2004, 01:36 AM   #3
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xerygon HB User
Re: How long does it takes?

Has he showed any improvement under the testosterone? Or has he not tried it yet? If nothing else has worked, it's worth it just to see if the testosterone does. If it doesn't, then take it from there

Old 12-08-2004, 05:48 PM   #4
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Re: How long does it takes?

yeah it sounds like you do have a "nightmare" on your hands, I don't see or how things can get better ?
you guys have gone to most of the Dr's!.. I commend you on that.....but the trouble I see lies with your hubby/ rather or not his sex drive works is irrelevant at this stage....saving your marriage is what you and him should really think bout!!......most relationships fall apart in the bedroom anyway!.....some find their problems and take care of it some don't!!....
when you have all but excuasted the do's /don't in a relationship..getting professional help and that don't do it....whats left??

Just always remember "your only a failure if you don't never try".... agian!'

I recommend you both need to get away from each other...go stay with a friend/ relative ... and not see or talk to each other for at least 3 months.... yes 3 months!!! and then get back togather and don't force the issue of both should be able to satisfi yourselfs sexually during this "apart" time!....this is what some Dr's - so called therapist call "tough love" it will be hard on both of you but through faith and strengh/the love you both have for each other you will be able to solve this problem.....(hopefully)
I wish you both the Best.

Last edited by chevyman; 12-08-2004 at 05:55 PM.

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