It appears you have not yet Signed Up with our community. To Sign Up for free, please click here....

Sexual Health - Men Message Board

perhaps straining? or not.

Post New Thread   Closed Thread
LinkBack Thread Tools Search this Thread
Old 07-13-2005, 02:44 AM   #1
Junior Member
Join Date: Jul 2005
Posts: 42
prague HB User
perhaps straining? or not.

Ok, I am going to make a clean timeline just so I can sort this out and not get into the personal areas such as relationships etc.

say.. 4 months ago.

Seeing a girl, sexually active and everything is great. Sex is lasting 30-40 minutes, I am staying hard the entire time etc...

3 months ago.

Seeing same girl (I should redefine this as I might get bad comments. I am "with" the girl, basically we are friends with benifits and she knew that I was active with perhaps one girl during this time and she was fine with it). Now back to the timeline of 3 months ago (1 month after I first became sexually active with my friend who was aware that it was not going to progress into anything serious)

We are still having sex probably once every two weeks and all the sudden I can't perform. I mean, I am aroused at first but I slap the condom on and well it just seems that "it" loses interest while my brain is screaming what is going on this girl is beautiful.

2 Months ago.

I start a relationship with a girl, or at least attempted. We became sexually active and it happened again. Aroused at first then put the condom on and nothing. This girl is my type to the T so it's no sexual problem there. Basically from there it goes to when I saw her again and I tried to have sex with her and it still happened (although I was able to perform with oral sex [both times I made excuses up, first was that I was stressed and not in the mood and second was that I ripped the condom when I opened it and didn't have anymore, she probably knew something was up then so she performed oral sex and it was fine although it didn't last as long as I usually do. Actually I was embarrassed that it only lasted about 3 minutes. Although I hadn't recieved oral sex in awhile it had been strictly sex so perhaps thats it)].

Follow events more than the dates it seems a little wrong to me now that I re-read it.

Ok, so here is the problem. Well, actually I think you know the problem I just don't know why it happens. It can't be labido can it? I am only 19! It can't be that I am not attracted to these girls, because I am very much attracted to them. I don't believe testosterone can just drop right? I mean I had healthy normal sexual activities since I was 17 so I am sure that all that is fine. I just don't understand, and I am just at the end with this. It's becoming a nuisance and I fear that if it persists it will develop into some psychological phobia.

Also, I feel a sort of tension in the left side of my penis and the area above it. It feels that it is strained but this only happens sometimes during the day. That could just be me flexing a muscle because I am overthinking this.

Last edited by prague; 07-13-2005 at 02:44 AM.

Sponsors Lightbulb
Old 07-13-2005, 04:08 AM   #2
Senior Veteran
Join Date: Dec 2000
Posts: 2,623
Lance2 HB UserLance2 HB UserLance2 HB User
Re: perhaps straining? or not.

Does your penis work fine when you masturbate? If know it works and this stuff is really all about your fear of failure or inadequacy....this is actually quite common, not all guys are willing to own up to it or discuss it. Putting on a condom will often cause us to lose our erection and working to get things going again is fine and can be quite fun if you let her help! Unfortunately once we have an erection problem or lose it like you did...our head kicks into high gear and we get all freaked out about it and worry that it'll happen again. Then a viscious cycle kicks in....and it just keeps happening. Stop over-thinking this and keep working. If you're comfortable explain this to your g/f and ask for her help and patience. Try forgetting that you even have a penis...focus so much of your energy on her and not worrying about your erection....just enjoy the moment with foreplay and dont' put pressure on yourself to perfrom....that can only make this worse. I know its tough...forget the past few times and focus only on the one you're involved in at the moment....I bet you'll be surprised....and so will she! About that pain, probably just a pulled muscle or something. Do you do any heavy lifting or working out? If so, that may be the cause. Keep us posted and "get back on the horse" LOL

Old 07-13-2005, 09:06 AM   #3
Junior Member
Join Date: Jul 2005
Posts: 42
prague HB User
Re: perhaps straining? or not.

thanks for the advice. Yes I can maintain a full erection while masturbating. I suppose your right, it may be some psychological factor, I just don't see what could have turned it on. As for the strain, I do lift although I have stopped for a week as my surgery is coming up.

Closed Thread

Similar Threads
Thread Thread Starter Board Replies Last Post
Straining eyes, can't see. Kwok Eye & Vision 1 07-24-2009 07:02 AM
Does straining cause decreased visual acuity? therover5509 Eye & Vision 1 04-30-2007 08:35 PM
post op: reherniate disc straining to stool? mstyutd Hernia 4 12-13-2006 06:42 PM
Constipation / Straining on the loo during pregnancy sarah100 Pregnancy 10 12-10-2006 07:12 AM
perhaps child masturbation? Kat1966 Children's Health 16 07-03-2005 04:47 PM
can straining cause acid reflux weight39 Digestive Disorders 4 07-14-2004 06:32 PM
Bloodshot eye clearing upon straining riflefire Eye & Vision 1 06-10-2004 06:44 PM
Without Straining? mrc Exercise & Fitness 2 04-25-2003 01:33 PM
Re: straining with soft stools fiber Bowel Disorders 1 01-16-2003 10:54 AM

Thread Tools Search this Thread
Search this Thread:

Advanced Search

Posting Rules
You may not post new threads
You may not post replies
You may not post attachments
You may not edit your posts

BB code is On
Smilies are On
[IMG] code is Off
HTML code is Off
Trackbacks are Off
Pingbacks are Off
Refbacks are Off

Sign Up Today!

Ask our community of thousands of members your health questions, and learn from others experiences. Join the conversation!

I want my free account

All times are GMT -7. The time now is 04:06 AM.

Site owned and operated by HealthBoards.comô
© 1998-2018 HealthBoards.comô All rights reserved.
Do not copy or redistribute in any form!