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Old 09-11-2007, 03:17 AM   #1
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Curbing sexual desire

Could anybody please offer advice regarding the following.

In a nutshell (I hope! ) I'm a 43 year old male in good health and physically active. I've been (and still am) happily married for 21 years and will not be totally happy untill its 61 years!
The problem is, that although my wife is my best mate, she's not at all sexually active and unfortunately, I'm the total opposite! I have a big collection of porn (which she does't mind) and am CONSTANTLY thinking about sex! It's driving me mad and I've lost count of the number of hours I've gone off on my own for some "fun". The thing is, it's never really satisfying, I waste hours and hours on my own when I really want to be with my wife. All I do is get stressed out and tired and ratty and it's getting worse.
My wife is EXTREMELY understanding, she is aware of my problem and has even gone as far (with my TOTAL blessing) of going to a herbalist and buying tablets called Vitex Agnus-Castus (which is apparently a centuries old remedy used by monks to curb sexual desire).
All I want to due is curb my incessant need/want for sex and be able to get on with my life and just have a good laugh with my best mate (my wife).
Incidentally, when we do make love, which is about once a fortnight (on average) we both genuinly enjoy it and get as much affectionate, as well as sexual pleasure, it's just no where near often enough for me and its a frustration I can really do without.
I know that sexual offenders can be treated with "chemical castration" which sounds extreme but from what i can make out, is just a case of taking certain drugs to curb the sexual desire and that is all I am looking for. The trouble is, I don't know if these drus are freely available.

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Old 09-11-2007, 08:16 AM   #2
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Re: Curbing sexual desire

Could you and your wife come up with some type of hobby or project that both of you would enjoy; this should take your mind away from continual thoughts of sex and be good therapy for the two of you. Worth a try-- Good Luck to you both!!

Old 09-11-2007, 11:54 AM   #3
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Re: Curbing sexual desire

Instead of curbing your desire, increase hers.

Ask her gyno for a prescription for a 5% testosterone cream. It is compounded at a pharmacy. She rubs a small dab on her clitorus about 1/2 to 4 hours before sex or every few days. One $90 jar should last 6 to 9 months

This will bring back her sex desires.

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