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Old 01-22-2008, 02:13 PM   #1
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Trouble Sustaining An Erection

Hi all,

I'm 23 yrs old and I'm getting worried by my inability to sustain an erection during sex. I've tried to had sex twice and on both occasions, I couldn't sustain the erection for any meaningful penetration. During the most recent encounter, I was actually all turned on but things went awry when I started to put on the condom. My partner was patient enough to try to 'resurrect' me but every time a decent erection came on, it would go soft again when I tried to penetrate. Even when I'm just purely making out without the sex, my erection would go away after like 10-15mins. I really don't understand what could be the problem.

I've had no problem in sustaining an erection for masturbation but I do need porn to do it. To be honest, I've had little sexual experience for a good part of my life. It was only during the last 6 months that I started becoming more active. I also do get an erection when I wake up in the morning but it doesn't happen everyday though.

I'm really worried about this issue. What could be the problem? Is it because I've been too reliant on porn for stimulation? Or could it be a physical condition?

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Old 01-23-2008, 12:25 PM   #2
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Re: Trouble Sustaining An Erection

anyone can help?

Old 01-23-2008, 01:36 PM   #3
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Re: Trouble Sustaining An Erection

The best thing you can do for now is stop masturbating and stop watchign porn. The only way to break it your conditioning is to do this. stop for a couple of weeks. you will get very very horny then try to have sex with a girl. If you can't then continue trying only with her/him until you do.

I was in the same boat as you. most of its mental speically the condom part.

Once you can have sex with a partner you can start masturbating again. Though if your that dependant on pron you should layoff it. That will just make your mental condition come back and you will never get over it.

Old 01-24-2008, 11:17 AM   #4
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Re: Trouble Sustaining An Erection

Hi Bengie,

Thanks a lot for your advice.

I'll definitely lay off the porn for a while. I really do hope everything turns out okay and that this isn't something to do with a physical condition.

Old 08-16-2009, 07:37 AM   #5
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I am a healthy 51 year old heterosexual male. I have always loved having sex and have never had problems. Recently, I have found myself single again and have had the pleasure of a number of women's company, only to find that I also had problems sustaining an erection.

At first I thought age, but honestly, I am in the best shape of my life at 51! So, I ruled that out. I thought about viagra, but I had no reason to believe that physiologically I had changed so much so soon.

What I noticed was this. While married, we did not have sex that often, I viewed some porn and masturbated occasionally. When we did have sex I could keep it up for hours. (I also had really good control).

One thing I noticed since being single was that I was having sex much more often, masturbating more and watching more porn. While the sex was awesome and often, I was getting over stimulated. I think Bengie is right, skip the "self service" and porn. I did and it made a huge (pun intended)difference. Not only "can" porn and masturbating over stimulate you, it can also set very unhealthy expectations for you about your partner (her body, her sexual proclivities, her performance, etc.) but also about yourself (Am I big enough, will I satisfy her, etc.).

I think it's all in my head, but since this is the 21st century, I have no problem looking into the Viagra if that is what will make the experience for both partners more enjoyable... Have fun!


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