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25 yr. old boyfriend cant keep erection long enough to penetrate

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Old 06-28-2008, 11:48 AM   #1
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25 yr. old boyfriend cant keep erection long enough to penetrate

I am going out with a 25 year old guy who seems very healthy a bit shy, has only been with one female in his life so he says. He is very romantic and affectionate and gets hard as soon as we begin kissing. Only problem is as soon as he gets to the point of penetration he fall soft. He does it even during oral sex. He made penetration once but immmediately after being in he fell soft. He says he dont know why it happens that he's very attracted to me. He said it happened with the other girl too. What could it be?
He said he thinks it's because he's too excited, i said if it was that then he would just ejaculate before getting it in. He dont dont ejaculate, he just dont stay hard long enough to have anything. He stays hard as long as he is dry humping my leg but thats it. I have never had a guy do this with me.
What could be the problem? Please someone give me some insight on this.
Sincerely baffled and frustreted

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Old 06-28-2008, 04:54 PM   #2
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Re: 25 yr. old boyfriend cant keep erection long enough to penetrate

well, sorry but maybe you 2 need to take it slow and see what happens or maybe your not meant to be a couple

Old 06-30-2008, 07:50 AM   #3
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Re: 25 yr. old boyfriend cant keep erection long enough to penetrate

Just take it slow, and I think, things will work out with time.

Old 07-07-2008, 07:33 AM   #4
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Re: 25 yr. old boyfriend cant keep erection long enough to penetrate

Any good herb supplement can help in his age. My bf used Extagen to avoid this prob. You write that he seems a bit shy. May be you can relax him by your tenderness and effrontery.

Old 07-07-2008, 10:07 PM   #5
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Re: 25 yr. old boyfriend cant keep erection long enough to penetrate

Probably has low T. Search this board for threads on erection problems or low T....Have been many recently. There is a near epidemic of low T due to meds, pollution, tainted water supply, and exposure to chemicals. Your family Doc can do a simple blood test to see if your T is low. It can be safely corrected using a script for "Androgel"....A cream / gel you rub on your arms each day. Worked wonders for my husband.


Old 07-07-2008, 10:47 PM   #6
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Re: 25 yr. old boyfriend cant keep erection long enough to penetrate

generally a guy falls short in the heat of the moment is because he has some tramatic issue emotionally being nervousness and the likes. maybe he's frightened about some issue, say meeting his expectations that he will please you the way he wants, fear of falling short, what you will think of him exc. the only thing i can suggest is maybe telling him [deleted] or something to those regards to make him feel that he dosn't have to meet his expectations of himself and fall short. just a thought. i had the problem too once when i was 18 now 25 and that fixed me right up. lol just and idea

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Old 07-08-2008, 01:10 PM   #7
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Re: 25 yr. old boyfriend cant keep erection long enough to penetrate

I'm going through the same thing your boyfriend is so maybe I can give a bit of insight from the other sex.

For one, I'm very shy and I know that's part of it. She is the first partner I've ever been completely naked in front of, and only the second partner I guess you could say I was sexually involved with. I've yet to have vaginal intercourse. In short, I'm much more inexperienced than her. I don't mind too much because many of her ex's were experienced and used her only for the sex. Also, wanting to please her but knowing I won't be able to as much as I'd like, realistically is also sort of intimidating to me. It's not like she's unattractive or I cannot get erections, either. I've felt very turned on being with her in-person, on the phone, and even a few IM sessions. She's very attractive to me.

Honestly, though I feel another obstacle is the time issue. I'm comfortable around her, of course, but getting up to a level of comfort to the point where being in that situation is no big deal will take time. Granted, this is the most successful and soon to be the longest relationship I've been in it still will take time.

Now that I've given you my situation I'll go ahead and give you the solutions I'm taking to get to the point where I can confidently have sex.

I'm not going to go with herbal teas, viagra, or anything like that. As "natural" as they claim to be, it's not as natural as being free of drugs, even if they intend to benefit me.

To expand on the idea of taking it slow, try this: gradually build comfort levels with him. Initially, I was very scared to give her oral. I even was a bit uncomfortable taking off my shirt in front of her, but now neither of those are an issue. It was just a matter of taking things in small phases without pushing him psychologically to that level.

keil mentioned the idea that you weren't meant to be a couple, but that's a terrible mindset to have in this situation. Sure it is mostly the guy's problem, but that doesn't mean you have to think like that. The biggest thing that she can do for me now to arouse me is to simply take the initiative and kiss me, tell me she loves me, etc. on her own free will. When I'm in a situation I don't think I'm ready to handle yet (see: sex), it only makes it worse to get expected to do things. Reassure him that you love him and what he does to you or for you (if you in fact are in love and aren't in it just for the sex, as I'm assuming). It helps a lot.

I've also had this idea of blindfolding her the first time we have sex.

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