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Old 08-14-2008, 03:38 PM   #1
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Question Can't stay erect with gorgeous female

I've slept with several females in the past with no problems. But recently I met this woman who I have begun to fall for. The first time we had sex I could only get somewhat erect and couldn't even get off. We stopped after she was ready to be done. Since then, I can't become erect even when I am pleasuring her or observing her beautiful naked body in front of me. I'm only 24 years old and can't understand what's going on. I can get erect from other females and pornography but not her. I'm assuming it's a confidence issue but I don't know how to solve it. Can someone please help me understand?

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Old 08-15-2008, 04:29 PM   #2
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Re: Can't stay erect with gorgeous female

I'm assuming it's a confidence issue but I don't know how to solve it.
Based on what you said, I would think you're right.
And one of the worst things about "performance anxiety" is that it tends to become a self-fulfilling prophecy.... because each failure you have makes it worse.

And the only way I know of to solve a confidence issue is to have more sex with the woman in question. I was a victim of a bad experience my "first time out". Too much to drink, but I'm not sure whether it was that or just beginner's fear.

I'll also warn you of something you may not know. Your penis is a "trust meter". If, for some reason, you don't like the woman or trust the woman to know you intimately and be bonded to you in this way, your penis is going to try to prevent the bonding for you.

It took me about 50 attempts before I was able to complete with my girl friend when I was 19. She was, fortunately, as inexperienced as I was so it didn't matter so much to her, we were just incredibly happy being together and trying it out.

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