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Old 09-01-2001, 07:24 PM   #1
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about sumthing i cant reach...

my boyfrien and i have sex on a regular base and sure we do use condoms.
Here is my prob:

Since we started to have sex(for quite long)i have never ever get to the point of orgasm with penetration, we tried lots of differents sex positions but nothing seems to work, until the day we decided to try doggy style oh gosh...i thought this position would help me because it was easy for him to go further into my vagina, but i was wrong...i screamed yes...but it was not orgasm, i screamed because it hurts alot but this kind of hurt is so fantastic...well, now i feel like not normal at i red before there is 3 kinds of orgasm :
1- g-spot
2- clitorial
3- anal

clitorial was the only way for me to get orgam(using hands)but i cant last any longer with dat...i can only last about 10 sec and right after dat i feel tired and cant have sex because it hurts so badly. ive heard about the G-Spot orgasm which can make a woman last hell lot longer but just cant find it...
im just wondering if you guys could help my boyfriend and me?!have u any suggestions about which sex position is the best...thx a ton!

ps:ive never tried anal sex...and not planing to try it n e seems so nasty for me!sorry if im offensing some of u!

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Old 09-01-2001, 08:41 PM   #2
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Re: about sumthing i cant reach...

May be able to help, first of all the g-spot is located in side your vagina, on the front wall. Now you lay on your back and your have your b/f look at your private area from between your legs. Have him picture a clock in his mind. Have him use his (Well washed)finger in a "come here" type motion. (Palm facing his body, curl his finger back towards himself.) Your G-spot is most likely somewhere in between 10 o'clock and 2 o'clock. The depth anywhere from .5" to 2" deep. (Sorry don't know metric. LOL) There is no magic button, and most likely he won't feel the difference in the area of the G-spot as opposed the area around it, but you'll know. It's important that you are properly aroused before you try this of course.

You might like pressure, or slight rubbing aganist this area, it's up to you. But don't expect a mind blowing orgasm when you two find it. It could happen but all women are different. It may just feel really good. Guide your boyfriend during this process also, trust me he won't know what feels good, great or hurts unless you help him out.

If you can't find it, it's possible you are one the the woman who just don't enjoy G-spot stimulation.

Doggie style has been known to cause G-spot orgasms. For my wife it does. It's possible you found the G and for some reason the pressure on it caused the pain. Maybe try doggie style slower next time or not so deep. See if the feeling is better, or no pain.

More advice is what we tell the guys, don't worry or even think about having an orgasm. Think about what feels good. Think about your partner. Do what you can to make him feel good. Your mind is very much a sexual organ. A very important one. You can train your body to orgasm only in certain ways. You convince yourself you just can't have one through penetration. So most likely, you won't. Your brain won't allow it. Try forgetting about what is not going to happen but what is happening. How good this feels.

When it comes to positions, there are more than most people can imagine. What feels good or works for you, may not work for the next person. Doggie style for example, you felt pain. My wife loves this postion. The only rules there are when it comes to positions are do what feels good for the two of you, don't do what feels bad. Keep trying different postions, have fun.!!! There are no best postitions to tell you about, it's up to you and your b/f. The best positions are what you guys like best. And it's really fun finding all of the different one you like. <IMG SRC="">

Have fun and good luck!!

Old 09-02-2001, 08:44 AM   #3
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Re: about sumthing i cant reach...

I think I might be able to help as well.

Answer this for me. Is your boyfriend penis around 12 'o' clock, 3'o' clock, or 6 'o' clock when he has an erection?

In other words, does his erection point straight up, straight out, or straight down?

If his erection is hard and pointing straight up, he has a 100-300% chance is giving an orgasm. So, basically he can surely can give you an orgasm.

If his erection is straight out, then his chances 30-70%, meaning he has a chance, but it's very hard (possible) and may require a certain position for him to achieve thsi upon you.

If his erection points straight down, then his chances are less than 10%. So basically, if his erection is straight down, then penis is rendered unuseful as far as giving you an orgasm.

Let us know.

Old 09-02-2001, 01:22 PM   #4
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Re: about sumthing i cant reach...

i find the only way to have an orgasm with my g-spot is if i am very very very aroused like if you have ever watched porn movies and you get so aroused the even a slight touch the **** area can make you orgasm, this is when i can insert my fingers and have an orgasm by g-spot stimualation- So now my only problem is becoming this aroused when i am with a guy, this sounds bad but i feel there are too types of arousal - the feeling of being with a guy you really like and then the straight out visual arousal the comes from porn-which is a much much stronger arousal point for me So maybe i need to watch porn with a guy but i wouldnt want a guy looking at other women hmmmmmmm

Old 09-02-2001, 05:50 PM   #5
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Misty*Miss HB User
Re: about sumthing i cant reach...

thx alot for ur opening mind!well...i tried a couples of times b4 (finding by myself my G-spot) but guess it didnt work at all!but now...let me retry it...! boyfriend still feels sad each time we have sex because he said he cant brings me to heaven...which i do not care!of course if i cant scream a little bit louder would make him happier huh! <IMG SRC="">

ur point of view was helpfull! u ask me, my bf's little friend is around 3 oclock when he has an erection (staight out).and as u said it might be hard for him, do u have any suggestion about which position we should take?!thx a ton!

Shiny Bedroom Eyes-
oh dont worry sis...i think lots of women are in the same situation as u.
maybe u should try to get used to this situation(watching porn movies with ur guy), i use to do it with my bf before helps a lil bit!
i was afraid dat he would be a pornmoviesalcoolic but i was wrong...he told me dat it doesnt affect his mind at all...maybe those girls are pretty and all but as long as he loves u for who u movies are sex movies...u cannot compare happy with who u are and with the one u share ur life with!

Old 09-03-2001, 12:35 PM   #6
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Re: about sumthing i cant reach...

My ex-g/f had somewhat of a similar problem too in that she needed a clitoral orgasm first than she could have a vaginal orgasm. That's how I developed a strong tongue! Heehee!

My best advice is to use "girl on top" position. That way, you can control the depth, intensity, lenght, and stimulation of the activity. You might also want to try **** stimuation while he is inside you. Maybe that might help you orgasm vaginally. Either way, you're going to ***. Right?

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