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Old 07-18-2003, 01:26 PM   #1
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Question 1st time really nervous need advise

ok heres the deal i know my gf wants to have sex she has told me she is ready and i feel i am too but im really really nervous. i hear and read that most peoples first times are really quick and i guess its natural but i really dont want that i want to know if theirs anything to prolong the time i just need some advise like earlier mentioned its going to be my first time...all advise and replys are appreciated

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Old 07-18-2003, 02:50 PM   #2
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If both of you are sure you are ready, take your time, use a condom,use plenty of lubication, use a condom,enjoy, and use a condom!!! I know I repeated myself three times, but don't even think about not using one unless both of you are ready to be parents

Old 07-18-2003, 10:09 PM   #3
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releaving yourself earlier in the day may help you last longer, or so i've heard.

Old 07-19-2003, 04:00 PM   #4
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Give her a little foreplay. Your first time, most likely, will be quick. Pleasure her a littel before you start. She will produce her own lubricant. A condom does help prolong.

Old 07-19-2003, 07:49 PM   #5
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thanx a lot german30, ruffian29, and bngreen. i appreciate your advise and will use it
thanx again,

Old 07-19-2003, 08:03 PM   #6
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Don't worry about finishing quick and being nervous. It happens to pretty much everybody, I was the same way the first couple of times with my GF. Just remember to relax, have fun, plenty of foreplay, and use a condom (as it was said above)

Old 07-20-2003, 08:25 AM   #7
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To enjoy your first time and make it last longer I'd suggest you make sure that you will have lots of time and privacy. It's a special occasion for both you and your girlfriend.

Take your time...have lots of foreplay so she is well lubricated and totally ready (I'm assuming it will be her first time too, but regardless take your time).

Definitely get all the discussion of contraceptives out of the way before the big day comes. That's one worry you don't need to have that day. Make sure you are both using whatever method you agree on. Wear a condom...both for contraception but also to prevent any STD's. The condom will slightly lessen your sensations which can be a plus the first time.

If she is a virgin too take lots of time and be gentle as she could experience some pain if her hymen is intact before you begin.

As for the advice about masturbating earlier in the day...if you feel you might get too excited and ejaculate too quickly (not an uncommon problem for a first time) you could do that. Alternatively you could have your g/f masturbate you as part of your foreplay and then wait a short while for another erection. Since you will have recently ejaculated it's likely you will last longer. Talk to your g/f about it and explain that it might be better for her. Good luck and's a special day you'll always remember.

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