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Old 07-11-2003, 04:23 AM   #1
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Question what is it with some guys??

I really need to know this from some of the male posters. Why do guys like porn so much? I mean it really makes me sick and my bf says the same, yet it is always on his computer and he used to go to strip clubs all the time. He says he doesn't see a connection between porn (he says it pops up on his computer and he doesn't go to it, but I have proven him a liar on several occasions)and strip clubs. Am I really that stupid? I don't think so. I just don't know what it is that makes some guys so dependent on porn, could someone PLEASE let me know....aside from the obvious of seeing naked girls. Any help would be much appriciated. Thank you


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Old 08-23-2003, 12:24 PM   #2
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Can I say that to have a porn related pop up your bf must have already been on a porn site

Old 08-23-2003, 12:30 PM   #3
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There is a simple answer and a not-so-simple one ...
The simple answer is: we are turned on by things visual. It's a guy thing. You wouldn't (really) understand!

Old 08-23-2003, 01:23 PM   #4
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I'm a 30-year old virgin. Watching pornography is about the only sexual outlet I have! To me, it's a fantasy of sorts, wishing I was the guy in the video having all the fun.

Once I start having actual sex, I imagine my videos will be quickly retired.

Old 08-23-2003, 02:38 PM   #5
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First off, Charris - you don't have to be on a porn site for porn to pop up. Just something that maybe advertises for a porn site to keep the bills at bay. If you've ever tried to get 'emulated' video games off the internet, you know what I'm talking about. You look for a SuperNintendo video game and wind up with a pair of breasts obscuring the entire screen .
Anyway, yeah, you're not really going to understand porn as you aren't a guy - we are INTENSELY visual creatures, and (especially if a guy isn't sexually active with other people) strictly mental fantasies often don't cut it for masturbation.
Women don't get porn, by and large, and I don't really think they ever will. If it really bothers you so much, you can try and ask your boyfriend to leave it behind for you - he just might. But it's tough.
To quote the show 'Coupling,'
"Why on earth would you watch that trash?"
"BECAUSE IT'S GOT NAKED WOMEN IN IT! The four pillars of the heterosexual male psyche are 1) Naked Women, 2) Lesbians, 3) Stockings, 4) and SEAN CONNERY BEST AS JAMES BOND!"
So yeah. Sorry, I got a little caught up there...

Old 08-23-2003, 03:00 PM   #6
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i am a sexually active 22 year old and have been sexually active for 10 years. I hate porn and the idea of it. Women are treat horrible during the filming of them and other wise, to me they r dirt. In addition, they ofter aren't sexually active, most guys are not that huge, most females, do not like to be treated like dirt as they r in thos movies, most men, do not ejac, as much or with as much "force" as they do in those films.

To the person who is 30 yrs old & a virgin, I admire u, u r a person of conviction, good 4 u.

Old 08-23-2003, 04:06 PM   #7
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Anyone who started sex at age 12 was probably abused or at least used by older guys. Your opinion is valid for you.

No one forces these women to join the sex industry. We have free will in this country! I don't see it as degrading, to me physical pain is degrading but there's people who like that too and who am I or you to deny what consenting adults wish to do with each other.

Yes the guy's are bigger, it's a visual medium and size counts. All the women have breast implants too. It doesn't reflect real life, it's fantasy. Take it as that. Good luck in finding a guy who doesn't like it, we're wired to like doing it and looking at it.

Old 08-23-2003, 07:03 PM   #8
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Guys are more stimulated visually.

Ask yourself these though, why can you just accept it? Is it really harming you? Him? other than the fact that you only feel that it's gross. Can you live with that?

Is it harming your relationship? Or perhaps you're jealous and hurt that your bf is stimulated by other women? Well, don't be. Also, ask him if he isn't getting enough from you. (sorry I just had to put that)

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Old 08-25-2003, 04:25 PM   #9
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I think there are two types of guys who see porn.

The first group (that would be me) go to the porno drive-in as a "male bonding activity". We would go and see a Johnny Wadd Film Festival, drink beer, play pranks, and make rude comments during the movie. It was a juvenile pastime for us.

The second group (a buddy of mine fits this mold) are SERIOUSLY into porn. My buddy used to buy these like $25 porno mags with pages that are laminated in thick plastic (wonder why). He would subscribe to "Hustler" and "Load" mag and seriously read them. And not let anyone else see them. He would go BY HIMSELF to those porno-shops where you sit in a booth, put in your $5.00, and a curtain comes up and you watch the nude dancers. (Each room, according to him, was furnished with a roll of paper towels and a trash can).

In my estimation, the first group is harmless though immature. The second group are perverts and have serious issues.

Above is my $0.02 on the subject.

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