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Old 08-29-2003, 02:14 PM   #1
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I'm still seeking answers for this one:

I'm male, 21 years old, and in regular health (aside from low testosterone.) Now, I can have erections, and I can have orgasms just like anyone my age (although with drastically less frequency.) However, I don't *feel* a thing. Orgasms are no more than a tickle, yet the entire process of muscular spasm and ejaculation occurs as expected. Infact, it feels about the same as taking a ****.

My body reacts to all the stimuli, the urge to mastrubate is present daily, yet my body produces no reward for going through "the motions." It's bizare to say the least.

This is clearly a hormonal problem, but what horomones could it be related to? Could I be "out" of dopamine and serotonin?

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Old 08-29-2003, 02:34 PM   #2
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It's not neccessarily a hormone problem... Could be chemical, phychological, or mechanical. I'm going through the exact same thing as you at the moment (although some days I seem to be more sensative than others).

I suggest going to a physician first and getting a check up... Get blood work done. If that doesn't help, go see a urologist... And finally, I suggest trying a sex therapist.

Jamie, do me a favor and keep in touch with me and let me know how your progress is going. This is a terrible thing for a 21 or 25 year old to go through... I've recently begun to date women with some success getting them to the bedroom, but not being able to feel anything during the act is a real bummer.

So let me know what you're trying and how that's working and I'll do the same for you.

Good luck my friend!

Old 08-29-2003, 04:58 PM   #3
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Hello Jamie and Modulus,

I'm also going through a similar problem, although a bit different.You can read my post on reaching climax. But you're description of going through the motions of masturbation really applies! I also don't think many urologists are aware of these problems, normally the high percentage of male complaints are of Premature ejaculation... Well, keep in touch with results!

Old 09-06-2003, 04:25 AM   #4
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Hi all....I read your posts about the "feeling nothing" problem and have a possible answer.....

I was working on learning some "Eastern Sex Techniques to Drive Women Crazy"....well, the main one involves developing your muscles (the ones you start and stop peeing with) up....I did the exercises and learned to have multiple orgasms, but part of what it does is to BLOCK that sensation of ejaculating (and constricting the actually event).

After a while I noticed that when I was using that method, I was having a hard time feeling anything as you all describe. I learned the problem for me was mental and went back to regular sex methods and "loosened up my mind" and enjoyed the regular sex again and the feeling of "RUSH" came back.....I have since learned how to balance the two types of techniques...just takes some practice and patience. ehhe.....hope this helps!


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Sex is very much a mental thing and being low on testosterone for so long and all the worry over it has made you forget how to have fun.

I think you need to stop focusing on your lack of feeling and start thinking about making the other person feel good. Don't focus on your penis and what it is doing, but think about how great it is for your parnter. Over time your orgasm will improve. It is true that orgasm on testosterone is not the same as a natural orgasm. I'm not sure why, but I suspect part of it is because you don't get a big enough hormone surge at the moment of orgasm.

So far as I know, there are no recognized drugs or hormones that can improve orgasm.

Just an after thought, after all you have gone through you might well be suffering from depression. Depression kills orgasm. Low testosterone is known to cause depression and just because your testosterone is normal now (might not be your normal even if the blood tests say in range), doesn't mean depression will leave easily. You might want to talk to your doctor about being depressed. Depression doesn't have to mean feeling blue all the time, it can be other feelings like not being interested in things you were before, avoiding personal relationships, finding no fun in life and similar feelings.

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Old 09-06-2003, 04:00 PM   #6
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I feel like we've kind of strayed from the original intent of this topic. Orgasms feel fine... True sometimes they're not of the earth-shattering persuasion, but sometimes they are. The real problem is a total lack of sensation leading up to the point of ejaculation. Once erect, the parts of the penis that are normally the most sensative seem to be completly numb.

I'm meeting with my urologist on the 15th... If anyone will know what's going on it will be him. I'll keep you guys posted.

Old 09-07-2003, 08:00 PM   #7
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I've actually been to two endocrinologists and one urologist. It's all quackery.

My GP listened to my story and asked for some blood tests, which revealed very low testosterone may be the cause. To verify, months later, he ordered the same test again. Finally, he referred me to an endocrinologist.

The endocrinologist listened to my story, gave me another blood test (exact same one) that indicated testosterone levels of 319ng/dl, called them "low normal," and then sent me off with diagnosis: "Endocrine Disorder - Unknown"

I went back to the GP, very displeased. He gave me one months worth of AndroGel to try and fix the low testosterone problem. Halfway through the month, he gave me yet another (exact same) blood test. It reavealed that the gel did its job, yet my sexual problems were uncured. So, he refused to renew my AndroGel perscription and perscribed anti-depressants. I threw them in the trash on the way out of the office.

I fired my GP, and found another one. He requested more of the exact same blood tests. Based on the results, he referred me to a urologist.

The fist urologist listened to my story and suggested Viagra. He obviousy missed the point. After an uncomfortable prostate exam, he told me he'd like to see me back to give me vasoactive injections and take an ultrasound of my penis. Oh, and he wanted those exact same blood tests, again. Needless to say, I never went back to that doctor.

At this point, I simply started self medicating by getting myself a legal perscription for AndroGel via some creative means. Then, I sought out another endocrinologist on my own.

The second endocrinologist listened to my story, asked for even more of those same blood tests and based on those results scheduled a pituitary MRI with dye injections! The MRI came back fine, naturally. So, now he's back to even more, you guessed it, of the same blood tests. How about we try some medication, eh? My next appointment with this guy is in October. Quite a wait.

Note that the above sequence of events took about two years. Appointments with specialists are ridiculously hard to get.

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