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Old 02-01-2006, 08:20 PM   #1
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question about "tightness"

i know this is a weird question, but i've been feeling kind of insecure about it lately. when i have sex, it always hurts at first but then there is hardly any sensation other than some uncomfort. also i have a problem with tampons leaking... not because my flow is heavy, but because it just sort of goes down one side. i know it's a really stupid thing to worry about but this makes me think i might be a little "loose". how can you tell? i mean, it feels pretty tight if i use my finger but i have nothing to compare it to so i don't know what it's supposed to feel like. i know vagainas come in all different shapes and sizes and yadda yadda but i still feel insecure. how do you know for sure?

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Old 02-03-2006, 07:58 AM   #2
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Re: question about "tightness"

sorry jenna there is no way to know for sure...about the tampons well maybe you are using one that is too small. you might not think your flow is heavy but it could be haevier than you think...try using a tampon for meiduim-heavy flow, they are much thicker.
the reason that it feels different once the penis is in is becuase you get more moist inside and its easier for the penis to move up and down

If a guy or anyone has never said anything to you then i dont think you have a problem.


Old 02-03-2006, 08:54 AM   #3
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Re: question about "tightness"

look up Kegel exercises

Old 02-04-2006, 05:57 PM   #4
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Re: question about "tightness"

I am going through a similar problem, not the tampon leaking, but the "tightness". I was totally unaware that I was somewhat "loose" down there until my boyfriend of over a year brought it up recently. I told my gyno and he recommended that I see a specialist. Wetness is also a factor that makes intercourse not fully pleasurable, mainly because I sometimes don't feel it.

Somebody recommended Kegel exercises and I'm doing them, but I don't really know how effective they are.

So, I will soon see a specialist for a possible vaginoplasty (surgical reconstruction of the vagina)

Old 02-07-2006, 06:01 PM   #5
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Re: question about "tightness"

I have no idea whether i'm not or not tight so I go by with what my bf says and he says I'm tight. So that should be.

Old 02-08-2006, 10:47 AM   #6
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Re: question about "tightness"

If you can't tell, and nobody is telling you otherwise, why assume there is a problem?
I think it is strictly insecurity. I would just put it out of my mind as an irrational thought, since it has no basis. You have nothing to compare it to. The vagina is very adaptable. The same vagina will typically accommodate a large or a small man just the same, with that wonderful, embracing hug. It was made to be enjoyed.

Old 02-11-2006, 10:32 AM   #7
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Re: question about "tightness"

i'm sure it is just insecurity, but i'm worried. is this something i could ask my gyno about? i mean, they've seen and felt hundreds, surely they'd know? but would they tell me honestly? either way, it's creating problems... penetration is difficult and painful at first, which would make me think i'm tight, but after that there is very little sensation which makes me think the opposite. i'm not sure what's wrong with me.

also, about kegel excersizes... i know this can tighten the very opening, but what about the the walls of the vagina deeper in? or are those pretty much the same for all women and people are just talking about the opening when they say tight or loose?

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Old 02-11-2006, 06:49 PM   #8
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Re: question about "tightness"


I asked my gyno about the tampons once. They have never worked well for me. Brand does make a difference but I've always leaked a bit. When I asked him he (a very nice man) looked at me like I was daft and said:

"Why do you think mini-pads are such a booming business?"

And he's right. There's 15 different kinds of mini-pads on the shelf at my local department store!

He went on to say half of the women who use tampons leak some. And that a lot don't use them at all because they leak too much.

So in that respect you are very common.

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