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Old 07-12-2011, 02:32 PM   #1
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I have been sexually active for two years. Almost every time I have sex urine comes out. Sometimes a little. Sometimes a lot. Most of the time, I don't want to have sex at all. I have a very low sex drive anyway. So it wouldn't bother me that much to go without it. I really don't like "denying" my boyfriend. Although he is a VERY understanding person, I feel wrong when I don't respond to him sexually. Part of me hopes that he thinks the spot on the bed is just regular fluids that come out during sex. The other part of me knows that he knows it's urine. I looked up some things on the internet concerning coital incontinence. One source said that it could result from multiple pregnancies. But I don't have any children. I don't understand why this is happening. I can't go to the doctor about this (although I should) because I have no insurance. I've been wishing for a really long time that this problem would just go away, but it won't. What should I do? I feel helpless and embarrassed.

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Old 07-13-2011, 04:15 AM   #2
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Re: Coital Incontinence

Are you certain it is urine and not female ejaculation? Do you urinate immediately before you have sex (even if you THINK you don't need to go)?

Old 07-13-2011, 07:50 AM   #3
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Yea, I'm sure it's urine. I've smelled it. I always use the restroom right before, and it still happens. I've only had one orgasm during sex. So I don't think it's female ejaculation.

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Re: Coital Incontinence

Do you do your kegel exercises regularly? If not, that might help.

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Old 11-20-2011, 01:16 AM   #5
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Re: Coital Incontinence

Rozee...even though you've only had one orgasm, that doesn't mean you aren't releasing female ejaculate. Matter of fact...I ejaculate every time I have sex, whether it be through intercourse or otherwise...but only have an orgasm occasionally.

This may sound crazy...but to get to the bottom of this, may I suggest taking 2 bed sheets and folding them up...and actually placing a spot of urine on one sheet...then placing the other sheet underneath yourself while masturbating...then compare the spots later. If they look and smell the same...then yes, it's urine. If they're different, then welcome to the "gush" club.

Old 05-07-2012, 03:07 PM   #6
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Dear Rozee3602,
As a woman's healthcare practitioner, I just wanted to encourage you to discuss this issue with your trusted healthcare provider. If your healthcare provider has problems discussing sexuality, you should consider either asking for a referral or another provider who is comfortable with the topic; however, all healthcare providers are supposed to be either well-versed in this aspect of whole healthcare or conscientious enough to admit their discomfort and assist you by suggesting a provider who is available to talk with you.

Secondly, I want to let you know that according to the American College of Obstetricians and Gynecologists (ACOG), more than 40% women with some form of incontinence also have an associated or possibly related sexual dysfunction. I understand that this topic can seem private; and it is! but your Provider is trained to keep your confidentiality safe. Your health is of upmost importance. The incontinence could indicate another underlying issue to be addressed. For your well-being, please take this issue to someone trained in women's healthcare.

Thirdly, as the comment from titanhog suggests, there is actually confusion among folks, even professional ones, about the source of the fluids that you believe are urine. A good healthcare provider will describe to you how to check to discover the source of the fluid. Essentially, there are over the counter strips that one can dip in the fluid stain to see if it contains urea/ammonia (this must be done soon after the release). If it does not show a reaction to urea or ammonia, the source of your fluid is from your Bartholin's glands and indicates a healthy body reaction to sexual stimulation.

I hope this helps!

Again, please, feel no hesitancy to take this issue to your regular healthcare provider or to a women's healthcare specialist!

Have a beautiful day

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