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    Old 11-16-2006, 11:50 AM   #16
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    Re: Sleeping with dogs...literally!

    Try two cats, two dogs, a husband and me. All in a queen sized bed. Our older dog eventually gets on her own doggie bed in our room, but the other 3 sleep with/on us.
    My two cats are almost 17 yrs old and are sweet and slower now they have gotten so old. My male cat snuggles up to me every night on his special kitty pillow. My female cat sleeps at the foot of the bed and my other dog sleeps between my husband and I. It's always been this way.
    My suggestion for you? Have sex BEFORE you let them in the room, before you are actually ready to go to sleep. Once an animal has been permitted to sleep on the bed, it's almost impossible to break the habit.

     
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    Old 11-16-2006, 12:02 PM   #17
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    Re: Sleeping with dogs...literally!

    WOW...I was not expecting that many replies so soon to my post, although I think "rosequartz" should get most of the credit for that.

    And brown-eyed girl, she is my girlfriend, and I am proud and happy to say that (it has been edited). When I read your post, I couldn't believe I typed that...shows how doing personal business while at work can effect you.

    Speaking of rosequartz, we each have our opinions and I respect that, but please quit chastising me w/o knowing all the info. I never TOLD her it was me or them. There was no ultimatum. She brought it up first and she wants to change how things are because she does care for how I feel, and for me period...wooo whooo, bonus points for me! I wouldn't expect her to change, but it would limit the number of times I stay there because I could not stay there on work nights as I need a good nights sleep with my profession. I've never told her that I would stop coming over, as it just recently became an issue, but she is afraid that it would lead to me not spending as much time there, and she said she doesn't want that. It is all about compromise, as most of the posts pointed out.

    You are right, I have no right to tell her how to do anything in her house, and I haven't. Besides, she is the one proposing it. I posted this topic merely looking for opinions as to why a person sleeps with their animals period, especially when another person that cares deeply for them is right there. I posted because it is my way of trying to understand someone else, opening my mind, and who knows, maybe seeing something that I hadn't before...an angle I hadn't thought of. Thats a big part of what relationships are about...understanding the other person and why they feel the way they do when they do.

    As for everyone else...brook65, Destea, ILYF, etc...thanks for the input and the support...and yes she really is a great gal!

    Thanks again everyone...you too rosequartz (no hard feelings, right?)!

     
    Old 11-16-2006, 12:23 PM   #18
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    Re: Sleeping with dogs...literally!

    I don't have either a cat or a dog to sleep with, my hubby wants a cat and I want a small dog...its just one of the things you have to get used too...she has a habit of that and it will also be hard not only for the dog but for her to cope without her dog, and yes it might be annoying and seem like things happen at an awkward moment...but she is enjoying her time with the people (and animals) she loves most. Try and learn to accept it, soon you will also come to feel the same way, maybe not...but it wouldn't hurt for you both to try it out as a mature couple and come to an agreement.

    But come on, a dog in your croch area is romantic don't you think? Animals need love too jk...but just find the humor in it, the dog may be the turn off but you still have a beautiful girl in front of you...and yes try and close the door for a bit until you are ready for bed.

     
    Old 11-16-2006, 01:36 PM   #19
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    Re: Sleeping with dogs...literally!

    I duno why anyone would want to sleep with a dog or cat in their bed, I think its really unhygenic, all the hairs getting all over the bed sheets, ugh!! I think is ok if they are in the same room but have their own little doggie / cat bed but not in your bed, no way.

     
    Old 11-16-2006, 01:48 PM   #20
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    It depends on how bad the shedding is but I would not feel weird at all having my dog sleep on my bed. I probably have a biased opinion because I am a huge animal lover.

     
    Old 11-16-2006, 02:01 PM   #21
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    Re: Sleeping with dogs...literally!

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    I duno why anyone would want to sleep with a dog or cat in their bed, I think its really unhygenic, all the hairs getting all over the bed sheets, ugh!! I think is ok if they are in the same room but have their own little doggie / cat bed but not in your bed, no way.
    My dog doesn't really shed and she sleeps on top of the quilt at the end of the bed - she isn't on my sheets. Cats tend to shed more so I would agree with not having cats on MY bed due to just that fact and also their paws are steady in the litter which would gross me out - but, in defense of all cat lovers and all my friends who ALL have cats and let them sleep with them - if the hair doesn't bug you, fine be it (personally I am allergic to cats so it wouldn't work for me even staying the night at their houses).
    I keep my dog bathed and groomed regularly and she is on flea control pills. I know I started a bad habit of letting her on the bed and I want to break her of that but to me it isn't a huge issue. I don't think it is anymore unhygienic than having a baby on the bed - after all they soil themselves in a diaper don't they? but people don't seem to gripe about it. I say if people want pets in their bed to each his own. In a marriage or relationship we have to compromise though, so if it really bothers one partner then a pet bed is the best answer.

     
    Old 11-20-2006, 09:40 AM   #22
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    Re: Sleeping with dogs...literally!

    i refuse to have animal hair all over me. just don't sleep in the bed with her if she allows the dogs. if she chooses the animals over you then so be it. when she needs something, she won't be calling on the dog for help, she'll be calling you. so when she asks you for something tell her "Why don't you just ask your precious dog for what you want, leave me alone!" LOL!

    all jokes aside i think dogs should stay in their place. and it doesn't belong in the bed with you and her. even though it's her house she still should be decent enough to respect a guest in her home and be hospitable enough to remove the dog when you two are together.

     
    Old 11-20-2006, 09:47 AM   #23
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    Re: Sleeping with dogs...literally!

    all jokes aside......I think dog-lovers and non-dog lovers should just find someone who shares their views to share their sleeping space, because they're just not compatable with each other......end of story.

     
    Old 11-20-2006, 09:48 AM   #24
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    Re: Sleeping with dogs...literally!

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    i refuse to have animal hair all over me. just don't sleep in the bed with her if she allows the dogs. if she chooses the animals over you then so be it. when she needs something, she won't be calling on the dog for help, she'll be calling you. so when she asks you for something tell her "Why don't you just ask your precious dog for what you want, leave me alone!" LOL!

    all jokes aside i think dogs should stay in their place. and it doesn't belong in the bed with you and her. even though it's her house she still should be decent enough to respect a guest in her home and be hospitable enough to remove the dog when you two are together.
    thats EXACTLY the reason I got rid of my last boyfriend.....because he had a nasty bitter attitude and jealousy toward my dog......I don't need that.

     
    Old 11-20-2006, 09:58 AM   #25
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    Re: Sleeping with dogs...literally!

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    thats EXACTLY the reason I got rid of my last boyfriend.....because he had a nasty bitter attitude and jealousy toward my dog......I don't need that.
    not everybody can handle animal hair on their skin. it isn't always about being jealous and bitter. some people have sensitive skin, like myself, and i can't handle any animal hair on me.

     
    Old 11-20-2006, 10:06 AM   #26
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    Re: Sleeping with dogs...literally!

    well then why not just say that instead of saying this? It may be received and understood a little bit better

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    "Why don't you just ask your precious dog for what you want, leave me alone!" LOL!

     
    Old 11-20-2006, 10:45 AM   #27
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    Re: Sleeping with dogs...literally!

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    well then why not just say that instead of saying this? It may be received and understood a little bit better
    well i wouldn't have this problem because i would never be with a person who would choose an animal over me. so there would be no further discussion. i would ask once for the dog to be removed from the bed. if the answer would be no there would be no need for anyone to get rid of me because i'd just leave the person to be with their dog and find somebody else.

     
    Old 11-23-2006, 09:05 PM   #28
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    Re: Sleeping with dogs...literally!

    I am a neat freak so I would never let an animal into my bed. sorry... I am borderline OCD in that department. But just a question... when a dog does his business, they obviously cant wipe themselves... so when they trek the house and their owner, isnt there a transference of some of the remnents of their bussiness?? I dont really get that... or do pet owners not care about it? I have always wondered about this? Sorry to get off topic, but on topic, you have the right to ask your girlfriend to be with her only when it comes to the bed... maybe you could compromise and alternate... some nights with the dog and some nights wihout.. if that is possible

     
    Old 11-24-2006, 04:35 PM   #29
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    Re: Sleeping with dogs...literally!

    Sometimes animals do leave smear marks from underneath their tail....gross! They don't belong in the bed.

     
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    Re: Sleeping with dogs...literally!

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    I'm primarily looking for the opinions of those that allow their dogs to sleep in or on their bed with them, but other responses are welcome. My girlfriend allows her dogs to sleep on/in the bed with her. Initially when we first started sleeping together, they weren't up there, but slowly they have worked their way onto the bed, first at the foot, then between your legs, and now right between us, as if they are another person. She said she has always allowed them to sleep with her. They are small dogs (under 15 pounds), but their presence is still evident throughout the night. The other night we had to stop in the heat of passion so she could put the dogs on the floor...that was romantic (her words), especially when one of them put their muzzle right in my crotch! Yuck!! It threw everything off.

    I wasn't raised to sleep with my pets. I love animals and I really like her dogs, but I am there to be with her, not sleep with her dogs. We discussed it last night (she brought it up before I was able to) and she realizes she needs to break them of the habit. I was grateful she saw how it affected me, although i still feel bad, as I know what her dogs mean to her. However, I just don't see why she felt the need to allow them up there in the first place when they weren't up there with us initially. Furniture is for people, not animals, am i not correct? Likewise the bed is for us, and only us... We are affectionate with each other and we sleep very close (when the dogs aren't present), so why does she need the extra company of her dogs when i am there.

    Like I said, this was not allowed when I grew up, but we still loved our dogs and considered them a part of the family. I've also been through extensive puppy and dog training classes and seminars, and allowing your dogs on furniture also goes against everything I've heard and what they teach. Am I wrong? Someone please explain this to me and why you feel one way or the other about it. And no, I don't have fleas...yet!
    Hello Smokey -
    I have not read through this whole thread, just the original post, so forgive me if I repeat some other advice, but my dog sleeps on my bed. I live alone and hate sleeping alone, and I enjoy the company of having him on the foot of the bed with me. I like to hear him snore as we both drift off to sleep. I realize I have spoiled him and if I do ever get a SO, it will be a real chore to train him to get used to sleeping in his pen or on the floor, but I will totally understand if my SO does not want to share the bed with my dog, but I wouldn't want him to judge for me letting him sleep on my bed when I was single. He's not just a pet to me, he's my baby, really the only real family I have, and probably the closest thing I will ever have to a child, seeing as God did not see fit to bless me with human children, but I love my dog almost that much. All that love and nurturing has to go somewhere. It's hard sometimes to make room in your life for a new person, especially when you've been single for a long time, those habits can be hard to break. Give her some time. She seems to respect your views and seems to want to make you comfortable. She just needs to adjust a little.

     
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