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    Old 05-23-2005, 04:11 PM   #16
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    Re: my baby died at 19 weeks

    Hi, I have never lost a baby, but I just wanted to tell you how sorry I am, I know that there is nothing that I can really say to make it any better. Please take care of yourself, and reach out to family or even a counselor for help if you need it. Many prayers for you.

     
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    Old 05-24-2005, 11:12 PM   #17
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    Re: my baby died at 19 weeks

    I also miscarried at 18 weeks about 2 weeks ago. It is hard to deal with because four days before the baby died I heard the heartbeat and say him for the first time.

     
    Old 06-06-2005, 02:40 AM   #18
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    Re: my baby died at 19 weeks

    Thank you all for your kind replies this is the first time Ive looked back on these boards (June) and when I saw my post was here I just started crying didnt think it would still be here. Dont know why Im so emotional but I still cant talk to people about it without crying, I have accepted losing my baby but itstill hurts I just dont talk about it anymore (seems like so long ago now although it was only 4 months) anyway I found out I was prgnant again a few days ago got an early scan booked as this is my 5th preg (I have 2 children) so fingers crossed for this one thankyou all for your stories and for listening and wish you all good luck for the future
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    Old 06-06-2005, 06:39 AM   #19
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    Jo,

    I am so sorry for your losses. I work very closely with pregnant women through births and losses of all kinds and at all stages, yet, I still feel dumbfounded when it comes to offering any comfort. I know there are no words that make you feel any better. I am just so sorry.

    I happy for you and your current pregnancy. I am sure you are happy and scared to death all at the same time. I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers.

    Much love,
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    Old 11-23-2007, 10:49 AM   #20
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    Re: my baby died at 19 weeks

    I'm unsure uf anyone uses this board anymore but after my recent loss ive been seeking solice in the internet and came across this thread. I to gave birth at 19 weeks to my son leo who weighed 10oz on 30th oct 07. im devastated. he breathed for half an hour yet was registered as a miscarraige im disgusted.

     
    Old 11-23-2007, 12:31 PM   #21
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    Re: my baby died at 19 weeks

    Dearest Kirsty,
    am so very very sorry, i dont see how they can class this as a m/c, that is wrong. Am sending you a gentle hug my friend, please dont feel alone as there is always someone about to listen.
    Takecare
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    Old 12-28-2007, 04:33 PM   #22
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    Re: my baby died at 19 weeks

    Thankyou for your kind message =] Still not coping and now have a serious womb infection to top it off
    sorry for hijacking this thread!

     
    Old 12-30-2007, 08:06 AM   #23
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    Hi Kirsty,
    you must be feeling awful and really do not need this infection on top of everything you are having to cope with. Has the hospital offered you any cancelling, this helped me to see that my feelings were all totally normal aswell as having the chance to say things in confidence. Do takecare and your not hyjacking this thread, everyone can write where and what they like so dont worry.
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    Old 01-11-2008, 09:09 AM   #24
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    Re: my baby died at 19 weeks

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    Just to let you know I will be leaving this message board my baby was born on 25th Feb I was 19 weeks pregnant he had the cord round his neck four times and had been dead 2 weeks apparently although Im sure I felt him kick in between this time. Dont really know what else to say as I am grieving so much it hurts to talk about my experience. I was in labour for half hour and had to be induced We will try again but not just yet as I feel I need time to get over this if anyone knows of anyone else this has happened to please let me know as I feel so unlucky and cant believe this is such a rare thing to happen and that it happened to me
    I'm sorry for your loss...I lost my baby boy Kapena at 37 weeks due to the cord around his neck 3 times and a true knot in his cord. I've been off and on "Okay" but, for some reason two days ago I hit the bottom of the pits again and I feel like jumping of a building (I won't do that) but, thats how I feel. I can't understand how or why this has happened and to make it worse, i work as a Welfare Fraud Investigator and see people everyday who pop kids out like Pez Despensers and some (not all) don't even care about their children. I have a 13 year old boy, who is my angel on earth....but I do miss my Kapena so much.....
    God bless you and please know that you are not alone and will never get over this. I've heard the phrase "you don't go back to 'normal' you have to find a new normal".....I've always read the posts on here, but only registered so I could respond to your post....I'm really sorry and I feel your pain. NO one can understand unless they've been through the same thing......I'll check back often to see if you've responded....Aloha and God Bless

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    Old 01-29-2008, 10:09 AM   #25
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    Iam so sorry that this happens to you! that happend to my bestfriend and she was devastated! she was induced and the baby kived 4 4hrs and died!

     
    Old 02-08-2008, 05:29 AM   #26
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    Re: my baby died at 19 weeks

    oh my goodness, hi ANGELMOM i lost youngest baby 7 years ago, i call my 10 year old my earth angel too, he loves it, i truly believe in my heart that he saved my life and pulled me through my loss. i know you dont "get over it" i think we just learn to live life differently. i knew from that moment on a little piece of me would be sad forever, but we have our earth angels to help us "cope" with the hard times. i am sorry if i disturbed you at all its just that, well it rang a bell with me, thought i would say hi. oh and while i am having a bad moment, thanks for making me smile. all the best to you. also can anyone tell me, my oldest son, i am so paranoid about him, i have nightmares that something has happened to him, i am so terrified that he too will be taken away from me, can anyone tell me am i going mad !! i would like to advise people too, please try again, i did not, ok i have one baby, but please try again.

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    Old 02-17-2008, 10:48 AM   #27
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    I am so sorry for you loss, a friend of mine lost her baby (cord wrapped around his neck) at 34 weeks. Sorry for your loss.

     
    Old 05-20-2008, 10:07 PM   #28
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    Hey What can I say, your pain is something no one can understand. It just happned to me today and I am just crying after that. I was 9 week pregnant and Today went for ultrasound and doc told that their is no heartbeat from last four weeks and baby is not grown more. I never thought that can happen to anyone . I always thought three months are critical and I am just crying so much I donot think I can survive..It was my first baby it is baby for me i lost my baby. Everyone in family is saying that it is okay but how can be I am crying so much that from last 7 and half hours. Their is no happiness anymore fofr me..I wish this shouldnot happen to anyone

     
    Old 05-22-2008, 07:43 PM   #29
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    Hi Kristy,
    I lost my baby around week 19 too. Or Ican say I went for ultrasound and I found that my baby died 3weeks ago and I didnot feel anything. I was eating everything and thinking my baby is eating too. It is just making me sick that my baby is dead inside and I was having so much fun. I am really sad this was my first baby and First I was sick for first trimester but I was getting better in 2nd and I was very excited. oh gash I feel like breaking my head because I donot even know what happned to my baby, baby's heart beat was 150 doctor didnot suspect anything nothing I had no bleeding just my baby died..
    I donot know Nothing is making me feel better...

     
    Old 06-30-2008, 11:43 AM   #30
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    I am very sorry for your loss and I completely understand what you are going through. I lost my baby the same way at 38 weeks on Christmas Day 1999. It is pain that is just undescribable. I see that original post was in 2005 so you have some time to process things. I am sure that you understand now how you never forget, but it does get easier. For me it has changed who I am forever. I have severe panic and anxiety attacks all the time. I always feel like I am dieing. When my baby died for the first time I realized just how fast someone can die. Like a light switch one second it's on and in a simple flick it's off. That is how it was with my son. One night he's all squirming around inside of me and the next morning I never felt him move when he used to always wake me up in the mornings. I only had 2 more weeks I was so excited. I had already had my baby shower which was huge. The nursery was all set up beautiful in the baby noah's ark theme. He was so wanted and everyone in the family couldn't wait to meet him. Then he died. They did a CS to take him out. I held him. I have never cried so hard and for so long in my whole life. He was perfect in every way, but he was dead. How could this happen? Everyone says that God must have wanted him for a reason, but I ask if God wanted him so badly then why did he give hime to me in the first place just to take him away from me? It has been 9 years since he passed and even today I cried my eyes out over my son I brought out his pictures and stared at him. I still to this day cannot believe this happend to me. I do have 2 other children and they are my world. When people ask me how many children I have I always say 3. People don't really want to hear about my son that passed. I think it maked them uncomfortable, but I try to explain to people that I talk about my other 2 children all the time and just like I talk about them I want to talk about my son that is in heaven. It does make me feel better to talk about him. I am sure that you have experienced this from time to time. My son's name is Dawson and he is my little baby angel. I miss him dearly, but we will be together again one day. I hope you are ok.

     
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