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    Old 07-24-2008, 09:15 AM   #16
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    Re: After 11 years and 6 kids he wants to walk away??

    He's having that old "I got married too young and didn't get to have any fun!" crisis. That bugs the heck out of me because no one forced these guys to marry young, yet they want to blame their wives because they didn't get to "party" when they were young and now they want to make up for it because it "isn't fair" that they missed out. Well, boo hoo! He chose to be a man with a family and he needs to conduct himself like one!

    He needs to grow up, act like a husband with a wife and children and stop playing flirty games with girls at work because he's in for it if this behavior continues. Then if you divorce he'll blame you for "bleeding him dry" with child support for the kids he helped make. (another pet peeve, can you tell?)

    I most certainly would cancel the text message service on his phone and tell him that if his flirty friends want to get ahold of him they can call the family home and you can speak to them.

    Oh, and by the way, don't blame these girls 100% for their behavior ("I know how women are"). While it is certainly wrong for a female to pursue a married man, they wouldn't continue if he'd put his foot down and explained that he's a married man and he is not interested. He is at least 50% to blame, don't let him off the hook for his part in all this.

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    Re: After 11 years and 6 kids he wants to walk away??

    Just an FYI, it's not possible to get copies of the actual text messages themselves. All you'd be able to do is get the phone numbers that were texted to and from, as well as the dates/times when the texts occurred. But the phone company does not have the means to give you actual printouts or copies of the actual content of the texts themselves.

    Old 07-24-2008, 09:55 AM   #18
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    Re: After 11 years and 6 kids he wants to walk away??

    I was told that you can't get copies of text messages because Verizon doesn't keep those records. However, I sent an email to find out for myself.

    I hate sitting here day after day dealing with the fighting kids and having no one to talk to at all. The only people I talk to are him and my mom and I can't tell her everything, she is bipolar and would probably fly off the handle and strangle him (I'm joking but she seriously wouldn't be happy). I have one friend I talk to every couple of weeks but that's it other then the internet.

    I know these coworkers aren't to blame for it all but I just met the one girl a couple weeks ago (he did too!!) who sends a text every night wanting to talk. I know she has a bf but I have no clue where he is, I know he works at a strip club so I'm assuming he's at work. I just wonder how she could meet him and his kids and still "talk" to him every night. But like I said he says it's everyone and not just her.

    He just called and I told him my concerns about texting other women and how you could grow close just through that and he said he could see how that could happen but that isn't the case here. So I asked him to assure me he has feelings only for me and no one else and he said he had to go because everyone was staring at him (he's at a meeting) but he loved me. Now I'm not sure I want the answer to that.

    He gets upset when I ask question after question but he tells me he's being open and honest and so I tell him the same thing, that I am being that way too. My trust level has just gone from 200% to virtually nothing and he can't understand why that is.

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    Re: After 11 years and 6 kids he wants to walk away??

    Well I tell ya what...if my husband was away at work all day and when he came home he was texting all evening, I'd be furious and would never accept that from him!

    And as far as these women/girls caring if he's married or has kids...don't count on it, morals have become a thing of the past!!!! And another thing, it's not up to those women to make the right choice...they aren't the ones that swore to you in front of God and family! Right?
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