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Old 06-24-2013, 07:05 PM   #1
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Dating a Stroke victim

I have been dating a gentleman who had a stroke in 2007 at the age of 43. We have been seeing each other for several months and things are starting to progress in the relationship. He was very upfront with me in the beginning about his stroke. The more time we spend together the more I see little signs of the effects of the stroke. He does have some obvious physical limitations With his mobility Although he can walk. The physical limitations does not concern me near as much as the cognitive obstacles. It is becoming very apparent that he Struggles with his memory. I have also noticed occasional "blank stares" and his "searching" for words.

Aside from the stroke he is a great guy. He is very kind and thoughtful, a wonderful father and a great Christian man. I do however have concerns with getting involved with someone who's had a stroke. A lot of my initial concerns were based on ignorance of stroke patients. He and I had a long indepth conversation about the stroke recently and that gave me some reassurance but I still have some concerns. I am just not sure what I am getting myself into. I am only 40 years old and although I have a huge heart I have already once been in a caretaker situation with my ex-husband's father When he was terminally ill with cancer.

I don't want to sound vain or heartless but would you get in a serious relationship with someone who had a stroke if you we're me?

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Old 06-24-2013, 07:29 PM   #2
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Wow....tough question.
I am a survivor and of course my initial answer is SURE I would but that is a bias answer. I can only tell you to follow your heart. yes, it is a risk and trust me we worry about a reoccurrence. I have been told that a second stroke could be more devastating than the first. We try to do everything to prevent it. Life is a gamble and I believe god is in control.

Good luck! I know it isn't easy.


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g'day mykidsrit2me,

hope you are well and in good sprits. without being harsh, no one can give assurance that a person won't have another stroke, and how serve it will be.
you have to make up your own mind. go with your heart,
God bless.

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There are no guarantees in life. Just becuase someone has had a stroke doesn't necessarily mean they will have another and just becuase someone has NOT had a stroke doesn't mean they won't have one.
Life is short; love where you find it.
Bottom line, follow your heart.

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