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Old 04-11-2003, 02:21 AM   #1
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Question confused?

hi i am a (deleted) yrold female....lately i have had some feelings that i may like females more than men and its scary when i was 5 i was molested by a female and i was sexually active at a young age can u help me i dont know how to figure out whether i am?>??

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Old 04-19-2003, 10:50 PM   #2
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Did you have some sort of treatment when you were younger?Any child that has been molested needs some sort of counciling to get out any and all feelings inside that they made need to get out. As long as you also know that it WAS NOT YOUR FAULT. As far as your sexual preference are still young yet and sometimes people do experiment with both sexes. Maybe you feel more comfortable around other females or safer. Were you molested by a man? It doesn't mean you prefer women to men...and if you's ok.You are not alone out there.

Old 05-03-2003, 01:55 PM   #3
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If you are a teen the hormones are jumping around & some months there may be too much testosterone/estrogen & some months there may be too little testosterone/estrogen.

Do not panic, it usually settles down to the correct gender. Give it a little more time, just wait awhile for any action.

Yes females do produce testosterone, it promotes the sex drive.


Old 05-03-2003, 04:41 PM   #4
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I was molested from the ages of four to eleven. I blocked this out and didn't remember it until I was in counceling. I was sexually active at the age of 12. I loved having orgies, kinky sex, and masterbating chronically. When I got married I couldn't stop my sexuality. I started lusting after women and had an afair with my girlfriend. I went to marriage counceling because it bothered me that I was turned on to women and couldn't remain faithfull to my husband despite the fact that I loved him. It was then that I found out I had been molested and that was effecting my sexuality. It took about 2-3 years of counceling but I finally got things under control and am not turned on by females anymore and am faithful to my husband. I urge you to get counceling to help you explore what is going on with yourself. This counceling will help you determine if you are or are not a lesbian or bisexual. Good luck!

Old 05-04-2003, 04:05 PM   #5
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i have not been molested, so i can't give you any insight on that topic, but i have read plenty of q&a questions in magazines where younger teen girls (like ages 11-16) are concerned about their fantasies about members of the same sex. truth is, it is perfectly normal to have occasional fantasies about this, its when these fantasies and your actions begin to outweigh the "normal" actions of your peers that gay/lesbian preferences are recognized...

i am aware that i cannot give my opinion or preach about this topic, but i would encourage you to just relax about these feelings and try to put the focus on heterosexual thoughts rather than the ****--your hormones (as well as everyone elses) are so screwed up that this age, that you can't take all your feelings as being your own convictions...i say just relax and see how this rides out.

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