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Old 08-02-2003, 04:10 PM   #1
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I was just talking to my boyfriend about this and it really ****** my off. Why do guys always have to be so mean when it comes to homosexuality. All my guy friends are just like this. They always refer to them as fags rather than by their name. Why is it okay for girls to be lesbians, but it's totally disgusting for a guy to be gay. Do guys really think that a gay guy would actually hit on them? Is that why they act the way they do?

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Old 08-02-2003, 04:15 PM   #2
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I can totally relate to you. A lot of guys I know do pretty much the same thing. Well just wanted to let you know you are not alone.

Old 08-02-2003, 07:04 PM   #3
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hey you arent alone ethier my guy friends are the same
i geuss gurls are just turned off by gay guys it doesnt mean u cant be friends with them! my best friends bro is gay but he has never once hit on a guy that he dosnt know if he is gay! so guys that arent gay do worrie you arent even close enough to be hot for them to like or even hit on you sorry hehehe
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Old 08-02-2003, 10:07 PM   #4
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K, I'm a guy. No, guys really aren't disgusted by the idea of gay sex, they are scared they will be thought of as gay so they HAVE to react as if being gay was having the bubonic plague, or they will be insulted by their friends. This tends to happen most often around low intelligence guys, or normal guys. The smarter they are the less they care. Also it happens around boys (they really are boys, not guys or men come to think of it) with low self-confidence. They want friendship and to fit in with a group so they start gay bashing. It's weak and stupid but better than being alone. At least in their eyes.


Old 08-02-2003, 10:12 PM   #5
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I think the above person summed it up nicely. I think guys are scared of being thought of as gay, so they have to be somewhat anti gay in their words, even though they may not think that way. I personally don't have a problem being around gay guys, because I know that IF one were to come on to me, I always have the power to resist, yatta yatta. It is usually the ones that are less comfortable with their sexuality who have to say things like that...

Old 08-03-2003, 08:12 AM   #6
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Guys frequently are homophobic. That doesn't mean that they are afraid of homosexuals; more that they are afraid of being considered homosexual. It's like everybody above has said, I guess. Guys sometimes have a macho aspect, where we are afraid of be considered anything but manly men, and so they reflect that by being insulting toward homosexuals.

I, for one, am not. I have several gay friends, and one of them continues to ask me to have sex with him, but I take it in stride, because I am totally comfortable with my sexuality.

Old 08-04-2003, 07:55 PM   #7
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Ok. If he is asking for sex you need to really, really get him to stop. I'm friends with gay guys too but they respect my sexuality and don't come on to me. Clearly this guy isn't respecting your choice and is trying to get you. You might wanna talk to him about it. As confident as you are, it is still not a good thing that he would try to move a sexual aspect on your friendship.

Old 08-04-2003, 11:22 PM   #8
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Most girls can find other girls pretty and attractive so they are more accepting of homosexuals, but guys are usualy gay or completly not gay, and disgusted by the thought.

Old 08-05-2003, 03:49 AM   #9
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i'm a guy, and have a lesbian sister, a gay uncle, and know numerous gay people.

in general, i dont have anything against gay people, but by way of gay guys, i really dont want to see them cuddle, or hold hands, or kiss, or anything like that. most people i know agree. seeing 2 guys doing that disgusts them.

plus, the reason guys like lesbians is cause it's not only one girl, (which is hot to look at) it's 2.

in the nude aspect, it's not 2 ****, it's 4

Old 08-07-2003, 08:31 AM   #10
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yes, some of you have hit it right on the head - some guys will be cruel about gays because they are fearful they have some gay tendencies themselves. Imagine a str8 as an arrow guy, who has the occassional gay fantasy, or has even played with another guy once or twice. he is defensive, and tries to push this aspect of himself by insulting others. Most str8 guys, most str8 girls, have had the odd fleeting fantasy about someone of the same sex - this is normal, and it doesn't make you gay or even bi. What it means is that you are a sexual person.

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