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Old 09-09-2003, 06:08 PM   #1
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Question Older Boyfriend?

I saw another post about an older boyfriend, but every situation is different. One of my younger friends, who is 15, met this 19 year old guy online. He is in the Air Force. I am the only one who knows about it, because I am her oldest friend. I was scared to death when they met in person about 6 months ago. I felt like her mother. I lectured her about everything that could go wrong, and made her promise me that she would stay in a highly populated area and always stay around people for at least the first couple of times they were together. Well, nothing went wrong. He seems like a great guy. In fact, I'm kind of jealous! But he is taking his leave from the Air Force soon, and my friend will need to tell her (widowed) dad, since it will be too hard to keep it from him when they can spend more time together. She keeps asking me how she should tell her dad, and I really don't know what to tell her. I know he'll be unreasonable about it. As soon as he hears that she met a 20 year old guy online, that will be the end of it for him. He probably won't even listen any further. And I would hate to see him try to destroy the relationship. Any advice?

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Old 09-09-2003, 10:02 PM   #2
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I want to start out by saying that you are a good friend and all you can do is support her. She needs to be upfront and honest with her dad. If she stays calm then he most likely will also. If he says NO about them dating then the answer is NO. Her boyfriend can get in a lot of trouble for being with a minor and possibly lose his career. I know this isn't what she wants to hear and I know its easy to be infatuated with a military man. (Their uniforms are just so HOT. I know I married a soldier.) I am going to tell you a little something about military men. They like to keep close romantic relationships when they are stationed over seas or deployed so when they do come home they have that someone to come home to. Even if it's not the right person for them. They are Knights in shining armor defending their loved ones from evil people. He wants to make sure that loved one that he is defending is waiting for him in the end. Honestly this relationship most likely won't last. She might even get tired of not being able to see him. It takes a lot of courage and strength to be with someone in the military. It takes it's emotional toll. One she may not be ready to handle. Again, just encourage your friend to be honest with her dad and be her shoulder to cry on if it doesn't work.
Good luck to you.- Leigha

Most of this I have learned from experience and I'm probably not that much older than you, so please take it to heart so you can save your friends heart from being broken.

Old 09-11-2003, 04:44 PM   #3
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Do you know what your friend is going to do yet?

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