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    Old 10-19-2003, 09:20 PM   #1
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    Post hmm.. am i using her? help.

    this is wierd.. im starting to question my own feelings. i love my girlfriend, shes the sweetest girl i know, i love talking to her whenever i can, i love cuddling with her, all that. my question is, is it wrong to want to do sexual things with her? its strange.. when im with her we always mess around and thats the main thing i think about. is it normal to have this mindset? or am i using her?
    (i know i didnt describe the situation very well, i just need general advice)

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    Old 10-19-2003, 10:08 PM   #2
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    Sounds super normal to me. That's a feeling you can get while being with someone.

    Old 10-19-2003, 11:35 PM   #3
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    No,its not wrong at all.As long as you have respect for her and take No for an answer,its all good.She sounds like a sweet girl!

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    Old 10-20-2003, 05:50 AM   #4
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    I am guessing your probably a youngin, and considering your male, it doesnt surprise me.
    Human's feel that way when they become close to the opposite sex.
    But its what you do with those feelings that's gonna count in the long run!
    Don't let your lust take control over you, because your the driver of your own ship! okay?
    Me bein a christian, I dont agree with sexual behaviour before marriage, so I'm not gonna encourage you to explore your feelings.

    And you say that its the main thing you think about? Now I dont agree with that, sure, your gonna think about it sometimes. But try and develop some self-control with those thoughts; you own them, they dont own you.
    Likely, your girlfriend might sense thats what you mainly think about...and then she really will thing your using her.

    Good luck.
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    Old 10-20-2003, 03:17 PM   #5
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    That is totally normal! She is your GF & you are sexually attracted to her, you are not using her.

    Old 10-20-2003, 06:00 PM   #6
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    I could only see you using her if for example if shes not ready, then you break up with her and move on to the next girl...but from what I understand, your relationship seems pretty healthy!
    hoped I helped..Good luck!

    Old 10-20-2003, 06:16 PM   #7
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    me and my b/f have been together over a year and i think its what he thinks about alot too! but we always do other sure you do too! it doesnt mean your using just means your a guy! haha~ unless like the only reason you ask her to come over or something is so she will give you something..thats wrong!

    Old 10-20-2003, 07:15 PM   #8
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    I'm a teenager too, and I'm in a situation just like yours. But, its a shear indication that your not using her, just because you are worried about it. It seems you care enough about this girl, that you want more from this girl, then just sexualy oriented activites.
    So, your not. I know were still young, and foolin around is fun and what not. But, as long as you respect her wishes, a little fun hasn't hurt anyone. Lets just not get carried away.
    I wish you best times, and a great relationship, this girls lucky to have you. Keep making her feel special. ^_^

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