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Old 03-29-2007, 06:35 AM   #1
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Lost sex drive?

I quit birth control pills back in January, with a hope that my sex drive would return. I had been on BC for over 5 years, and my sex drive was reduced to zero. The first 2-3 weeks after quitting BC, my sex drive came back. It was great - for the first time in 5 years, I actually wanted to have sex with my husband. After those first 2-3 weeks, my sex drive decreased again. It hasn't really come back since. I don't know what's going on. How long does it take for the effects of BC to wear off? Am I doomed? Thanks!

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Old 03-29-2007, 07:15 AM   #2
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Re: Lost sex drive?

Aww, Snogal, I remember your posts over on the BC board. I'm so sorry you're still having desire troubles. What's uber-sad is you had a "taste" of drive back, only to have it disappear! Ugh!!!

Hopefully others will chime in, but if you quit in January, you've probably only gone through a few menstrual cycles. It may take a bit more time. I know my doctors all said to give it a year -- whether it's libido, cramps, acne, menstrual issues, spotting. A year seems to be the magic number.

It also might not be a bad idea to establish a relationship with an endocrinologist. I can't tell you how many female friends I have who had hormonal issues for years that weren't diagnosed properly because a family doctor or gynecologist was interpreting the results. Those specialties are fantastic for most related problems, but it wasn't until my friends went to an endocrinologist that they really got the help they needed.

Lastly, I think it's important to remember that over the five years you were on the pill and suffered from lack of libido, you developed habits and a certain frame of mind concerning sex. I know I did. I sort of had to recondition myself a bit and work to break bad habits. I'd have weeks where I knew I was off the pill, I was horny the other day, I'm naturally lubricated and can orgasm easily ... what's up with this week? Why could I care less about sex? I just had to put myself in a different frame of mind. It greatly helped to fantasize, to wear sexy panties, to spend 20 minutes reading some erotica (not a romance novel, LOL) -- heck, I'd even steal a peek at DH's porn stash. I certainly didn't want to become a sex addict, but I knew I had to do something to get sex back on the brain consistently. Old habits are hard to break.

Best of luck to you

Old 03-29-2007, 10:35 AM   #3
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Re: Lost sex drive?

For me, it was about 5 months before my sex drive fully returned after BCPs, and now, it's pretty good. Not as good as before BCPs, but suddenly sex is so much better, and I'm able to have G-spot orgasms and not just clitoral ones, and I was never able to experience this while on the pill.

You might try getting your hormones tested at an endocrinologist, particularly your testosterone and progesterone levels.

There is an OTC supplement called Damaina I used for the sex drive my first few months off the pill and I do think it helped some too. I'm not sure if they sell this at GNC or if you have to order it online, but I do think it helped my sex drive some.

And Stenolady also gave you some good advice

Old 03-29-2007, 10:46 AM   #4
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Re: Lost sex drive?

I havn't had a sex drive in 5 yrs Since my mother-in-law moved in
Seriously I don't.
I don't take BC. I have no drive, no desire, I never initiate.Causes a little tenseness in the bedroom. I bothers me. I have mentioned it to my OB but he says nothing. I have even tried those as seen on TV increase you drive pills. They didn't work for me. Good luck to you Snogal I hope you get your drive back.

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