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Tzu.......it's very very hard what she and you are going through! I have a 14yr. old son, that was dx'd about a year and a half ago with Bipolar disorder, ADD, Anxiety Disorder, and ODD. It took what we call "tough love" to get him on the right track for help. he used to say he wanted to kill himself and made a couple of attempts, everything was MY fault, was very mouthy, disrespectful and didn't give a hoot about school, and awful, awful outbursts!! a little over a year ago, he was taken, by a police escort, to the behavioral center, where he spent 3 days, and was put on the Abilify, started at 5mg and is now on 30mg at nite. and with trying differnt medications, some of them put him in the worst outrages. it's been a trial and error with him. but for the most part now.......he's doing 100% better, compared to then. I always hated the thought of medication. But sometimes, you have to do it. people that don't have children with these illnesses or people that experience it themselves, really have NO IDEA what it's like. alot of people say it's "BAD PARENTING", but it's not. no matter what some may tell you, it's not your fault. if she is BP, or has any other illness.....all the love you give her, is not going to make it all better. it sounds as though she really needs medication, because chances are, it will probably only get worse. my son doesn't care for counseling either, we've done it a couple times, and doing it now too, he just sits there, he's bored, and i can tell he doesn't want to be there. And......the counseling hasn't done him any good either. he'll have sessions, then we'll leave, and he's not any different from before the sessions. I wish you all the luck. and i hope that they are able to give her the help she needs, no one really knows what goes on in their minds or how they feel.........it's awful. i feel so bad for anyone with these illnesses.

please keep us posted! :angel:
[QUOTE=Heavnlyhart2;3524553]being a foster child and bounced around in the system from home to home she lacks alot of structure in her life.Obviously no one has showed her any love unconditionally to gain attention you give her some which is one good thing she said "that she will kill herself if they move her" It is going to take alot of work but you have to show her she can trust you so the both of you have to build the foundation of trust , she needs proper guidance and discipline and needs to take some responsibilities, this child has been outcasted enough start off with simple things basic things just don't do everything for her...Once she feels loved she may come around treat her like a human being ....you may be her guardian angel....that saves her! I wish you the best...:angel:

Yes a lot of work still to do to win her over .. but I think we getting there very slowly ;)


[QUOTE=KissAmeGal;3524774]Tzu.......it's very very hard what she and you are going through! I have a 14yr. old son, that was dx'd about a year and a half ago with Bipolar disorder, ADD, Anxiety Disorder, and ODD. It took what we call "tough love" to get him on the right track for help. he used to say he wanted to kill himself and made a couple of attempts, everything was MY fault, was very mouthy, disrespectful and didn't give a hoot about school, and awful, awful outbursts!! a little over a year ago, he was taken, by a police escort, to the behavioral center, where he spent 3 days, and was put on the Abilify, started at 5mg and is now on 30mg at nite. and with trying differnt medications, some of them put him in the worst outrages. it's been a trial and error with him. but for the most part now.......he's doing 100% better, compared to then. I always hated the thought of medication. But sometimes, you have to do it. people that don't have children with these illnesses or people that experience it themselves, really have NO IDEA what it's like. alot of people say it's "BAD PARENTING", but it's not. no matter what some may tell you, it's not your fault. if she is BP, or has any other illness.....all the love you give her, is not going to make it all better. it sounds as though she really needs medication, because chances are, it will probably only get worse. my son doesn't care for counseling either, we've done it a couple times, and doing it now too, he just sits there, he's bored, and i can tell he doesn't want to be there. And......the counseling hasn't done him any good either. he'll have sessions, then we'll leave, and he's not any different from before the sessions. I wish you all the luck. and i hope that they are able to give her the help she needs, no one really knows what goes on in their minds or how they feel.........it's awful. i feel so bad for anyone with these illnesses.

please keep us posted! :angel:

Wow u have ur hands full there as well. I took mine to the other doc and she agreed to refer her to a pediatrician (she's on a waiting list now). Doc also said she doesn't look ADHD (by looking at her for 2 minutes mind u) :rolleyes: ... Well what I have read over the years is ADHD changes with age .. and in teens and adults may present as bipolar. Anyway at least she will be seen by a specialist who can if she feels the need .. medicate or just advise. I do find this child is a little easier to manage if we keep her on strict railway lines .. but gosh these type of kids do know how to manipulate u to move the line don't they :)