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I guess this sounds terrible, but I can't tell you what a kick I got out of the last few posts. It is so frustrating at those times when you feel like you've just been left out on your own. I could not get around for much more than the essentials for about four months before my surgery. I kept in touch with friends through email and phone calls, but I SO missed going out with them and of course they didn't want to come sit around with me all the time. Same was true after surgery; I couldn't get around much and was so bored and lonely! Then, five weeks after surgery, determined and desperate, I drove four hours to a wedding, spent the night and drove back the next day. Hint: Don't do that! I paid for it in pain for about two weeks afterwards!

Anyway, I help look after my 81-year old mother-in-law, who, thank goodness, is in excellent health. BUT, she is still 81 and has lost a lot of strength and mobility, and can't drive more than about a mile from her house, so I spend a fair amount of time with her. I also spend a lot of time with my dad, who is diabetic, disabled and has CHF. I've spent so much time in doctor's offices and hospitals with him, people have started asking if I'm a nurse. Guess I've got the lingo down! I live about 40 minutes away from him; my brother lives about 10 minutes away from him. But the brother is "too busy" to help. When my dad found out I was going to have surgery, he scheduled three medical procedures for each of the three days before my surgery. I need those days for getting ready, both physically and mentally! My mom and SF also decided to come visit the weekend before my surgery, so there I was (very painfully) cleaning the house and trying to get their room ready. She spent the entire weekend ignoring my pain, asking why I couldn't try acupuncture or Celebrex instead of "needlessly subjecting myself" to surgery. Aargh! And then the mother-in-law was in the hospital for about a week a month after my surgery, so there I was, driving very nervously out to the hospital twice a day to spend a few hours with her and talk to her doctors because my husband was in the middle of a big project at work.

Whew! A BIG vent! I love my family, but I have let myself be turned into the "go to" for everyone, and it wears me out sometimes.

So, after all that nonsense, my original point was to tell you all that THIS, of all times, while you are recovering and healing, is a time to be selfish for yourself. Ask for help if you need it. Friends, family, neighbors, co-workers, church, etc. -- you may be surprised at how willing some are to help you out. Let people wait on you and DON'T feel guilty about it. You NEED this time.

And don't let the expectations of others drive your recovery, either. No matter how loving and understanding those around you may be, they are not experiencing what you're experiencing. YOU know when you're in pain, YOU know when you're tired, YOU know what you can do and what you can't. Don't let yourself get caught up in thinking you "should" be able to do this or that.

OK, I'm off the soapbox and am turning it over to whoever wants to vent next!

Thanks, all.
[QUOTE=ember919;2754269]I guess this sounds terrible, but I can't tell you what a kick I got out of the last few posts. It is so frustrating at those times when you feel like you've just been left out on your own. I could not get around for much more than the essentials for about four months before my surgery. I kept in touch with friends through email and phone calls, but I SO missed going out with them and of course they didn't want to come sit around with me all the time. Same was true after surgery; I couldn't get around much and was so bored and lonely! Then, five weeks after surgery, determined and desperate, I drove four hours to a wedding, spent the night and drove back the next day. Hint: Don't do that! I paid for it in pain for about two weeks afterwards!

Anyway, I help look after my 81-year old mother-in-law, who, thank goodness, is in excellent health. BUT, she is still 81 and has lost a lot of strength and mobility, and can't drive more than about a mile from her house, so I spend a fair amount of time with her. I also spend a lot of time with my dad, who is diabetic, disabled and has CHF. I've spent so much time in doctor's offices and hospitals with him, people have started asking if I'm a nurse. Guess I've got the lingo down! I live about 40 minutes away from him; my brother lives about 10 minutes away from him. But the brother is "too busy" to help. When my dad found out I was going to have surgery, he scheduled three medical procedures for each of the three days before my surgery. I need those days for getting ready, both physically and mentally! My mom and SF also decided to come visit the weekend before my surgery, so there I was (very painfully) cleaning the house and trying to get their room ready. She spent the entire weekend ignoring my pain, asking why I couldn't try acupuncture or Celebrex instead of "needlessly subjecting myself" to surgery. Aargh! And then the mother-in-law was in the hospital for about a week a month after my surgery, so there I was, driving very nervously out to the hospital twice a day to spend a few hours with her and talk to her doctors because my husband was in the middle of a big project at work.

Whew! A BIG vent! I love my family, but I have let myself be turned into the "go to" for everyone, and it wears me out sometimes.

So, after all that nonsense, my original point was to tell you all that THIS, of all times, while you are recovering and healing, is a time to be selfish for yourself. Ask for help if you need it. Friends, family, neighbors, co-workers, church, etc. -- you may be surprised at how willing some are to help you out. Let people wait on you and DON'T feel guilty about it. You NEED this time.

And don't let the expectations of others drive your recovery, either. No matter how loving and understanding those around you may be, they are not experiencing what you're experiencing. YOU know when you're in pain, YOU know when you're tired, YOU know what you can do and what you can't. Don't let yourself get caught up in thinking you "should" be able to do this or that.

OK, I'm off the soapbox and am turning it over to whoever wants to vent next!

Thanks, all.
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I LOVE THIS !!!!!! THIS IS SO TRUE..........EMBER I can so relate......I am the "go to" person in my family ..........everyone depends on me........so before surgery i have reminded a few of my family members it is time to step up to the plate..........I WILL NOT FEEL GUILTY TO LET THEM HELP ME OUT......it is a family ........it is a circle......Please people ask for help - sometime that is what friends need is to be ask instead of us just waiting for them to do it on their own........TELL PEOPLE WHAT YOU NEED......