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db, I feel bad for you! I can't believe he got mad when you wanted to take a break. I suppose he is under a lot of stress to perform though, it must be frustrating for him because he's only 39. My one question is does he masturbate? I'm just wondering if he is able to give himself an orgasm or if he cannot achieve that either.
You said he's on Viagra... maybe that's another thing that's causing him to take so long. I've heard that some men can have 2 hour erections with no orgasm. Maybe a new prescription like Cialis or Levitra would have a different effect.
He was having this problem before he started taking Cialis, it wasn't Viagra, but I couldn't remember the name before.

This problem has been coming on for a long time, years. It just finally came to a head several months ago when it became the norm for him to go ahead and have sex with me while it was flacid. Like, I'm not going to notice??? I finally screwed up my courage and suggested he talk to his uroligist. Kind of "Oh, wouldn't it be a kick to try Viagra?" I tried to be tactful and was suprised when several months later he did go. It must have been embarrassing for him to go to a doctor for that. But after he got the meds. we had "Cialis dates." and I gave great praise to his "Super" ah, member. He seemed proud. (Using the Cialis didn't solve MY problem, yes, it was as long as usual, 1 - 1 1/2 hours, it's "nice" but it's just a little eccessive...

No, he's not ejaculating, you know how you guys do, you get close and say "Don't move." And then you think about, I don't know, dead puppies? And then you can go some more. It's what he's always done, but now it's not quite having the effect I would like.

He is definitely an "overachiever", are you getting that about him? And I think this erectile dysfunction is really bothering him, which will just cause MORE erectile dysfunction. That's why I've tried to be real understanding and not get huffy and storm off. (I have a friend that when her husband had this problem she said "This ain't workin'." And then she went to fix herself a sandwich.) I would NEVER do that. I love him.

I'm just so worried about the future. If this is happening NOW, what's it going to be like 10 years from now?
Thanks Ron, I think you're right. I have been worried about his health. If arteries are clogged up in his penis, what about his heart?

As far as "taking care" of himself before sex so it will last longer, we've been together 16 years total, married 11 years. Yes, when we first started dating I think that's what he did. I really don't think that's what he's doing now, because sometimes I catch him off-guard, so he wouldn't have time to.

I think something is wrong, and his mind is now in the mix, worrying about whether or not it's going to stay hard. I feel for him, but, I also feel for me!

Also, his penis isn't as large as it used to be, really. How can it be smaller now? It used to be so big around, in girth, and longer. Even with the Cialis it isn't back to it's past proportions. It's not just me, I know I've had two kids, but my hands and mouth definitely haven't changed any.

Also, it bends at the base, even when it's hard. Is that normal? We have to be careful about our angles, or we really hit it wrong and it bends and we both get hurt. And if it's not so hard, which is most of the time, I have to move in a certain way to get leverage so it works right - I don't know how to describe it, but it's got a swivel base, okay? It's always been that way.

We used a rubber ring at the base of his penis once, but, it didn't really help with the hardness much. With it in my hand I could feel the blood squishing around in his penis, and veins were popping out on it, it didn't look right and I was afraid we were damaging his penis. He wouldn't let me take it off though, but I never offered to use it again.

I'm worried about him.
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Thanks Ron, I think you're right. I have been worried about his health. If arteries are clogged up in his penis, what about his heart?

As far as "taking care" of himself before sex so it will last longer, we've been together 16 years total, married 11 years. Yes, when we first started dating I think that's what he did. I really don't think that's what he's doing now, because sometimes I catch him off-guard, so he wouldn't have time to.

I think something is wrong, and his mind is now in the mix, worrying about whether or not it's going to stay hard. I feel for him, but, I also feel for me!

Also, his penis isn't as large as it used to be, really. How can it be smaller now? It used to be so big around, in girth, and longer. Even with the Cialis it isn't back to it's past proportions. It's not just me, I know I've had two kids, but my hands and mouth definitely haven't changed any.
*** Never mention this to him. You have discovered aging. (Get some reading glasses.) I hope you are not going to be a Cougar in a few years. :jester: Maybe his testosterone levels are a bit low? ***

Also, it bends at the base, even when it's hard. Is that normal? We have to be careful about our angles, or we really hit it wrong and it bends and we both get hurt.
***You are not alone. You know exactly where to rub and that bends
him.. I guess this happens when you are sitting on top.
I am sure he likes the view, but it is grinding to the member from the south.
Why not stop trying for the perfect simultaneous "O" and try the doggie position while you use your hand on yourself? That way. you are in control and when you are done he can play all he wants without guilt about leaving you unsatisfied That is what they do in the movies. ***

And if it's not so hard, which is most of the time, I have to move in a certain way to get leverage so it works right - I don't know how to describe it, but it's got a swivel base, okay? It's always been that way.
***There is a tendon that supports it from below and keeps it pointing upward... I wonder if he has been hanging weights on it as suggested in some magazines, loosening the support. Does he have any anxiety or depression problems? ***

We used a rubber ring at the base of his penis once, but, it didn't really help with the hardness much. With it in my hand I could feel the blood squishing around in his penis, and veins were popping out on it, it didn't look right and I was afraid we were damaging his penis.
***Prolonged repeated use could cause damage or clotting. I would not do it. ***

He wouldn't let me take it off though, but I never offered to use it again.
***I guess it was a very different and confining feeling so he just wanted to ride with the new saddle 'til the next town.***

I'm worried about him.
***Have you tried dressing up in something different.. like a librarian with those reading glasses or an airline hostess? Men are simple creatures and
visual stimulation can be very effective. Just don't wear those outfits when you go shopping... you cougar! :bouncing: unless that also excites him..
He will probably want to go grocery shopping more than ever... Grrr

You can probably get something very 70'ish and cheap at the Goodwill, Value Village or Salvation Army recycling stores. One of those Jackie Kennedy pilbox hats can be flattering too, if you can't find a tunic.

I better stop before I get excited... Oops!! Too late! :nono: ***

Ron