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This is a new one to me. I had my surgery one year ago at age 47 with nerves supposedly spared on one side. I have yet to be able to achieve a natural erection or anything close to it (some very minor enlargement, with occasionally better results with Cialis or other oral meds). So I'd say your boyfriend is a very lucky guy to have normal erections back so soon.

But the lack of sensation and absence of orgasms surprises me. I am quite able to experience orgasm even without erection, and had my first probably four weeks after surgery. My orgasms are frequently even more intense than before surgery. In the absence of natural erections I have been using injection therapy and, once past the inconvenience of the injection, I have had some of the best sex of my life! Certainly no loss of sensation in the penis.

The surgery can damage the nerves that cause the blood to flow into the penis but the nerves that respond to the sensations of intercourse and orgasm are in the penis itself and should not have been affected by the surgery. It may just be anxiety that is causing his difficulty. If this persists I'd say your bf should talk to his urologist and/or ask to be refrred to a sexual health specialist. Good luck!
Well you're right about the emotional turmoil that is evident before and after surgery! As I mentioned, it has been about three years since surgery. I struggled for months to get an erection (6-9 if memory serves me correctly). I never had to worry about it before and I still worry about the quality of it now. I keep telling my wife that size doesn't matter! LOL.....

I noticed that I could not tell if I had a hardon without actually reaching down and feeling. Sometimes I did and it didn't feel like I did and other times I thought yes, and it wasn't. This I would relate to the sensitivity. Can't even tell when hard? Still continues to this day, but its usually hard. I take cialis usually to boost confidence, but can have sex without.

The sensitivity used to be light contact and great sensations. She would usually grasp it and play with the opening in the head with her thumb. This would be exciting. Now she needs to give me significant stroking with her hand. So it is not my imagination, my sensitivity is diminished. Never heard of this before surgery.

I am not sure if it has improved in the last years, or if I have gotten used to the changes. You asked about when I could achieve orgasm after surgery, and it was almost immediate. So I had enough sensitivity within a couple of weeks.

I would sure ask the doctor what's going on. Does he feel it if you stroke him or do oral?

ItzMe2
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Well you're right about the emotional turmoil that is evident before and after surgery! As I mentioned, it has been about three years since surgery. I struggled for months to get an erection (6-9 if memory serves me correctly). I never had to worry about it before and I still worry about the quality of it now. I keep telling my wife that size doesn't matter! LOL.....

I noticed that I could not tell if I had a hardon without actually reaching down and feeling. Sometimes I did and it didn't feel like I did and other times I thought yes, and it wasn't. This I would relate to the sensitivity. Can't even tell when hard? Still continues to this day, but its usually hard. I take cialis usually to boost confidence, but can have sex without.

The sensitivity used to be light contact and great sensations. She would usually grasp it and play with the opening in the head with her thumb. This would be exciting. Now she needs to give me significant stroking with her hand. So it is not my imagination, my sensitivity is diminished. Never heard of this before surgery.

I am not sure if it has improved in the last years, or if I have gotten used to the changes. You asked about when I could achieve orgasm after surgery, and it was almost immediate. So I had enough sensitivity within a couple of weeks.

I would sure ask the doctor what's going on. Does he feel it if you stroke him or do oral?

ItzMe2


Yes, this is what I mean exactly!!! He'll always be fully erect before sex, yet he won't know unless he actually looks down and sees it or touches it. In the beginning he didn't even believe me when I would tell him he was just as erect as before surgery because he didn't feel it. And I hope this isn't TMI, but last time we were together, physically he was the same as before surgery, yet he had no idea he was inside me, he didn't even know if he was erect or not...even though on my end physically it was my same pre-surgery boyfriend...I felt no difference at all...but now I'm concerned about him, and him being able to get just as much pleasure out of our being intimate as I do. He swears he does, but I know this bothers him. Like I said, he takes no ED meds, and I'm wondering if he should try some...but I don't know if they affect sensitivity, or just help to gain an erection. I'm sure it couldn't hurt to ask the doctor.

He does feel oral though, though not like he used to. Your own progress does give me hope though that this is a temporary thing, and that it will improve, so thank you!!!
ED meds work only on the nerves that trigger erections. One ED specialist likened these nerves to the power cord to an electric pump. If the connection is partially broken the meds may help to increase the voltage, as it were. But if the nerves are working fine (as seems to be true in your bf's case) the meds aren't going to do much more than give him a stuffy nose and/or a headache. As far as I know, and based on my own experience, the meds won't have any effect on feeling or sensitivity of the penis itself.