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Cancer: Prostate board


I had surgery 2 years ago at age 49. I went to the doc with a cold and ended up impotent. My cancer was wide spread but not metastatic. My uro is surprised after 2 years, I continue to have NO PSA.

I have always been a driven and goal oriented person. This little cancer thing was not going to stop me either. In all that I have done, this has been my greatest challenge. About 10 days before surgery, my wife and I went to Hilton Head nad basically made love every minute we were there. About 2 weeks after the catheter was out, I was horny but mr. winkie was not responding. Cialis- Viagra - the other one - if you want to know what it feels like to have a stroke, take them. I did each one once - never again.

I went into a depression. NOBODY except us guys that have had RRp have a clue what we go through. I began working long hours and drinking more than usual. After a year, I decided this was not solving the problem - only creating more of them. I began walking and do mild workouts, working less and became more involved with the family. That felt good. Now to the other problem. I finally just spelled it out to my MD who just did not get it - I am depressed and horny as hell and don't know what to do. I don't want pills - I want to help myself. He referred me to a shrink and I reluctantly went - at least I could lay it out to this person what was going through my head and how I actually felt. It helped.

Not too long ago, I was doing some major clothes buying with my wife. While looking for socks, she commented on the rack of nylon underwear for me - yeah, right. When we checked out, a pair of nylon shorts and boxers were in the pile.

Well - I'll tell you - I don't have continence problems and have found that a snug pair of briefs do help. But when it comes to sex, getting aroused standing up in a looser pair of undergarments does help. I use a VED pump - I could NEVER do injections - just the thought almost makes me ill even after surgery, etc.

My wife is taking me back to Hilton Head next week. Sex will never be the same but it is getting better. My shrink convinced me I had to "play" with and stimulate myself. It does help - I had to get over the idea of that being "dirty".

Good luck brother - NONE of my friends understand anything about this - they just don't. I went to a PCa support meeting - everybody was 75+ - yuck. While I live just outside a large metropolitan area, I can't find anyone my age that wants to share - just talk or lament.

Please - don't give up! Also realize depression is a very natural part of the recovery that doctors don't address. My uro is a great guy but he just treats the physical. I am his youngest post RRp patient -

Don't give up! Find what stimulates you sexually and you will see a change.

Good luck!
Hi Ron. I was diagnosed at 49 only my cancer was metastatic. My wife and I always enjoyed sex. Then after the biopsy and the hormone injection I became impotent. I've tried viagra, cialis, and the injections. Nothing has worked. I quit the hormone injections to get back my potency but it never returned. I have not had an erection in 2 years. Being impotent for me is not just not being able to get an erection. You couldn't get an erection but you felt horny. But for me I don't miss sex, I don't think about sex, I don't want sex. That's never been me. But it is now. I don't know if it's the prostate being overgrown with cancer, the drugs, or something else. It's a ****** way to live though. I can say that even though I have very limited time left.
It's been almost 19 months since my RRP and I'm very sad to say there's very little sign of any improvement in sexual function. I wake up hard or semi-hard a bit more often, and with vigourous stimulation (if I'm not too tired) I can achieve a fair erection that lasts a few minutes at most. They've said it can take up to two years to recover but at this point I have very little hope. Oral meds (I find Cialis the best) offer only slight improvement, if any.

The only thing that's helped me is tri-mix injections but even after more than a year of use I have very inconsistent results, which is extremely frustrating for me and my partner. (When it works though it can be spectacular so don't hesitate to try it and give it a chance if you haven't already.)

I tried to keep a positive attitude for a long time but it's just about crushed me. I have no confidence left and am feeling very defeated. It's defintiely affected my relationship badly. Most frustrating is my uro's seeming indifference. I have asked before and when I see him next, in a month, I am going to insist on a referral to an ED specialist. Good luck to you: only six months out there's still time. Keep taking meds and trying to stimulate the penis as much as you can.