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I have been posting on this sight for awhile now and I have a question about wanting sex. My husband goes to a support group but no one ever brings up the subject so I quit going with him. I don't know if it is a male thing or men don't want to talk about it. My husband had his surgery one year ago he tried viaga and he didn't like the flushing on his face. I checked his dresser and he did take a cialis last week but I don't know the results. Everytime I start to get something going he backs away and pulls back. It is not like we are newlyweds we have been married almost 33 years. I don't know what to do should I let his doctor know or just let him work it out for himself? Then I start to wonder if it is me. I try to be supported but nothing is happening and I am getting depressed about this. Any advice Thanks geifer
Hello,

I am now just 5 weeks post-op from having the radical prostatectomy. The surgery went well and both of the nerves that control erection were saved. My sex drive is low too, and I believe it is partially mental, and partially physical.

After my surgery and subsequent catheter insertion for 18 days, my penis had gotten very small and rather uncomfortable. After the catheter was removed, it stayed in the shrunken state. It's slowly starting to come back to normal with some help, (I've been experimenting with a vacuum pump) but honestly it is very, very embarrasing! It was weeks after the surgery that I would even let my partner see my penis, let alone touch it! Plus, at this stage of the game, it doesn't grow much with stimulation, and that too is embarassing! I've just recently tried Cialis...have taken it twice with very little effect. I think that in time, when things start working properly, my sex drive will return. Perhaps your husband is just very, very embarassed by his inability at this time to get an erection, and that may be why he is shying away. I know I did that with my partner too.

Finally my partner pushed the issue with me, and I did have limited success in achieving a partial erection. Orgasm is definitely possible, but of course there is no ejaculate. So....be patient....keep trying....and let him know that it's ok. If you stimulate him and it feels good to him, he may just get going again. Good luck!