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[QUOTE=anneanne;2910172]My husband and I are working on getting blood flow back into his penis. Sometimes, we also work a bit on the "feel good" portion as well. He seems to start feeling some excitement and as things progress, he tells me to just stop. I've asked him why, and he just says it feels weird.

Any comments on the post-surgery orgasm experience? What does it feel like? Do you feel any build up? Do you know you have orgasm? What can the spouse do to help her husband work through this new feeling?

It does feel different - sometimes it's more intense and pleasurable so it may be getting too strong for him...or he's afraid how intense it might go.

I definitely feel the build-up and I know the orgasm is there. It does take more to get an erection so patience and foreplay help a lot. Slow arousal/erections was the hardest thing to get used to - I was used to getting erect at the drop of a hat, sometimes at inappropriate times. Now that's not a concern...far from it. I did try some Cialis but I didn't like the nasal congestion side effect. It made my snoring a lot worse.

Background - PSA of 4.6 at age 48; 2 samples of 12 positive at biopsy; Gleason 3+3 = 6. Traditional 'open' prostatectomy in July 2005 with nerve sparing. Now age 50, with 4 < 0.1 PSA tests since surgery.
tiggerbear,

Well, my biggest problem was achieving a clear build-up and climax. It just seemed to be so ambiguous, especially without an erection. I had some weird sensations, but I would not describe them as intense pain. For me they were more like the sense that I was about to urinate, or unusual sensations that weren't always pleasurable.

I was able to get past all of these distractions and eventually charge on to an intense orgasm by mastering the use of the pump. Even though I had better results right after I started using the pump, it took a couple months before I really had a clear build-up and orgasm, and it took me about a year before I really seemed to have a sustainable erection with the pump method. For me, Viagra was worthless, like peeing money down the toilet. Cialis gave me some really bad side effects with none of the desired effects. So far, the best results for me are the pump for masturbation, and tri-mix injections for intercourse. And now, I can have an orgasm without an erection, but it just isn't as profound as one with an erection. I think the key to this whole thing for me is a long time association I have between arousal and erection. I guess there are psychological factors that many men have to honestly explore in order to recover a satisfying form of sexuality following this operation.

I hope you are able to get over the hurdle you are experiencing. The fact that you had one painless experience should give hope that you can "break on through to the other side", as Jim Morrison so elequently stated. I'd recommend that you get a medical grade vacuum erection device, and put it to use. There is a certain amount of discomfort associated with the pump, especially in the beginning, but keep your eyes on the prize and don't be concerned if it takes a while to master the use of the pump. Eventually, you can get a VERY full erection, and then hopefully blast through the distractions you are feeling. Also, make sure you have a decent urologist. Mine was great. He set me up with an Osbon rep (who was impotent himself) to coach me how to use the pump and how to get it covered by my health insurance. And then, when I was ready for injections, my doctor did a great job of selecting the right prescription and dose for me. If your doctor is just so-so, ditch him and find a new one!