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Hi All --
Love the idea of pulling up the ole "big girl panties."

SOmehow the problems related to incontinence may have begun to work themselves out. I used a combo of all ideas you all presented, plus some of my own. FIrst I pointed out that the amount of laundry had increased and expressed my concern for Mom. Next I expressed concern that she was having problems making it to the toilet -- especially at night. Whe Mom denied this, I simple said that I did not agree and said that the carpeting by the bed told the tale. When she asked what I meant, I showed her the new stains on the carpet. Although I was prepared for denial, the concrete evidence worked. Mind you -- none of this was said in aaccusitory or confrontive manner. I then simpley suggested that wearing Depends at night might help her not to spend so much time cleaning herself up and asked how it would be if I put some Depends in the drawer by her PJ's. She thought that would probably be wise. Then said that she had no idea that the problem had gotten so bad. I do not know if she wore Depends for more tha a night or two, but the whole situation seemed to raise awareness. Soon I was able to suggest that if she chose not to wear the Depends during the day, perhaps she would compromise by wearing Poise pads. She thought that might be a good idea. The I suggested that the incontinence must be frustrating and causing much trouble. She agreed and when I suggested we speak with her Dr. to see if he had ideas to help with the problem she was agreeable. We saw the Dr. last Friday. He has her on a medication that is the newest prescription for a drug similar to Detrol. We are trying this first. (Of course she wanted to know how she would take this new prescription and when the Dr. said that the nurse would give it to her with the rest of her meds she told him that she didn't take any medications at all-- naturally). If this does not work she will see a gyno/urologist. There is a new treatment that works pretty well that includes some sort of injections to the area -- hmmmm. So far so good. FOur days of less laundry and she seems more relaxed. I cannot believe the progress and I believe it was all in the approach. I was very careful to express my concern for her and expressed my empathy for the amount of time and effort the problem was causing her. Then left a partial solution (Depends and Poise pads in her drawer -- along with clean panties. I think it empowered her enough to acknowledge that there is a problem, but then again perhaps I read too much into her reaction!!! Perhaps I just got really lucky -- and I am sure this story is not over yet!!

I DO want to thank you all for your input. Your suggestions gave me the peace and confidence to move forward. Even though the problem is far from resolved, we have a sane start and we are working somewhat in tandem toward solutions (of course It is my job to resate what we are doing and why at all points along the way) :-). It is all much better than forcing her along the path.

Thanks to each of you!! --- Susan
Hi All --
Love the idea of pulling up the ole "big girl panties."

SOmehow the problems related to incontinence may have begun to work themselves out. I used a combo of all ideas you all presented, plus some of my own. FIrst I pointed out that the amount of laundry had increased and expressed my concern for Mom. Next I expressed concern that she was having problems making it to the toilet -- especially at night. Whe Mom denied this, I simple said that I did not agree and said that the carpeting by the bed told the tale. When she asked what I meant, I showed her the new stains on the carpet. Although I was prepared for denial, the concrete evidence worked. Mind you -- none of this was said in aaccusitory or confrontive manner. I then simpley suggested that wearing Depends at night might help her not to spend so much time cleaning herself up and asked how it would be if I put some Depends in the drawer by her PJ's. She thought that would probably be wise. Then said that she had no idea that the problem had gotten so bad. I do not know if she wore Depends for more tha a night or two, but the whole situation seemed to raise awareness. Soon I was able to suggest that if she chose not to wear the Depends during the day, perhaps she would compromise by wearing Poise pads. She thought that might be a good idea. The I suggested that the incontinence must be frustrating and causing much trouble. She agreed and when I suggested we speak with her Dr. to see if he had ideas to help with the problem she was agreeable. We saw the Dr. last Friday. He has her on a medication that is the newest prescription for a drug similar to Detrol. We are trying this first. (Of course she wanted to know how she would take this new prescription and when the Dr. said that the nurse would give it to her with the rest of her meds she told him that she didn't take any medications at all-- naturally). If this does not work she will see a gyno/urologist. There is a new treatment that works pretty well that includes some sort of injections to the area -- hmmmm. So far so good. FOur days of less laundry and she seems more relaxed. I cannot believe the progress and I believe it was all in the approach. I was very careful to express my concern for her and expressed my empathy for the amount of time and effort the problem was causing her. Then left a partial solution (Depends and Poise pads in her drawer -- along with clean panties. I think it empowered her enough to acknowledge that there is a problem, but then again perhaps I read too much into her reaction!!! Perhaps I just got really lucky -- and I am sure this story is not over yet!!

I DO want to thank you all for your input. Your suggestions gave me the peace and confidence to move forward. Even though the problem is far from resolved, we have a sane start and we are working somewhat in tandem toward solutions (of course It is my job to resate what we are doing and why at all points along the way) . It is all much better than forcing her along the path.

Thanks to each of you!! --- Susan