Discussions that mention flomax

Cancer: Prostate board


Greetings from CA,

The dry orgasm experience is something I'm not looking forward. I, like Ken in CA, experienced the retrograde ejaculations about every third love making session, when I was taking Flomax and I really didn't like it. :eek: The first time it happened, I was freaked! I called the urologist and his nurse expalined that it was essentially "nothing." Sure, that's easy to say. I did some frantic research and discovered that it was harmless and not a detriment to my health. Whew! But, I still hate the feeling.

Now that I'm two weeks post robotic surgery, I'm starting to get the erections again, especially when I wake up in the morning. Ah, yes! The old "piss hard on" is back. Probably a good sign considering I haven't started the nightly 50mg of Viagra as prescribed by the doc, post opp. It has really been in my mind though - what the feeling is going to be like and if it's going to hurt. I've read a few posts here that some guys actually experience spasm-like pain, and a few say the feeling is basically not terribly pleasurable. That does give me pause. :confused:

So far, everything in this journey has turned out fine, so I'm praying and thinking nothing but positive thoughts that this next hurdle will go well too. Ken, you really put it well with your comment "We're all brave for sharing our stuff here." How true that is! I know your experience on the 9th will go super-well. The fact that you're sharing and seeking answers to all your questions is a positive affirmation to your determination to beat this sucker, but good. Right on! I did the same thing and found this board to be ultra-beneficial, especially considering how the docs sometimes like to say nothing, change the subject, or answer in overly general terms, which I understand, but....
Any treatment for prostate cancer will either remove the gland or destroy it. In any case there will be no semen, although there may be a small amount with brachytherapy treatment. I personally find the dry orgasms to be more intense, but it does seem weird. Prior to the cancer treatment I too was on flomax for awhile and had the same experience with my urologist as mentioned by someone else in this thread. He said that since I had a vasectomy and wasn't going to have any more kids, why did I care. It is apparent that urologists don't get much (any?) training in male sexuality (other than their own). This is called a "feedback" mechanism and as has often been said - your brain is your most important sex organ.