Well I am having some problems and I am a person who dosent speak up especially with my fiance because he always blows things out of proportion, he is a hard person to talk to sometimes, other times he is very easy to talk to but i never know how he is going to react to certain things.. anyways he has a drinking problem and i have told him over and over that it bothers me he turns into a totally different person when he drinks and i dont like the person he becomes at all, and he knows it but still continues to do so, he drinks when things start to get a little hard in our life and it only makes it worse for him, he gets all emotional he gets mad easy and cries easy and he dosent see that it makes the problem worse not better. I dont know how to tell him again that his drinking is getting out of control. When he quits drinking he goes about 2 days and then starts to not be able to sleep and becomes withdrawn and he says he is sick but i know what is wrong with him.and so does he but he just does not want to admit that is whats wrong with him. And I have a problem myself I have been addicted to painkillers for about 7 years now and i just now started treatment, I have been on Methadone for about 3 months now and it has helped alot, but when i was taking the pills he was taking them as well, so now that i am not taking them and he dosent have a constant supply he drinks instead its like he has to have a buzz to function. He suffers from depression but says anti-depressants do not work for him, he has been to counseling for depession in his teen years ( we areonly 25) and he was even in a mental hospital for his depression in his teens, i dated him then too. But I am dealing with my own issues as well, and he seems to drink more when i have to go to work at night and he has to watch our daughter and he is so much fun to her when he has been drinking, he does all kinds of stuff with her and is the best dad in the world (she is not biologically his and her father is involved in her life as well and i think that bothers him but he wont admit it) he of course dosent drive anywhere because i have the car and he wouldnt do that with her anyways, He waits til i get home to get really drunk but he has to get a buzz on for him to have fun it seems, but when it comes down to me he always wants to get all emotional and he repeats the same stuff over and over ever time hes drunk which is all the time we have the same convo. and he says the same things its sooo old. He also wants to have sex and i dont when he drinks cause he just passes out in the middle of it i hate that! And he acts soooooo retarded when he drinks im embarassed for him when he talks to his friends on the phone! they all see it too but they think it is funny they think he is hilarious when he drinks but i do not at all. He also still sneaks some of my methadones when im not looking what do i say to that? he knows i need them. But what am i gonna do about this drinking thing? My father was an alcoholic and my childhood was a disaster because of it and i do not want my children to have an alcoholic father too, shes too young to know but i get this sick feeling like i used too when i was a kid when he is drunk and acting stupid i hate it so much and he hides it from me, what like i am not gonna realize you are drunk? that insults my intelligence. He hides the booze and acts like nothing is wrong. even though he is slurring and stumbling around. I cant handle it anymore, I want to marry him, he is a wonderful person when he isnt drunk and he loves me so much and treats me so well, but i cant marry a drunk how do i approach a sensitive subject? he has thrown my own problems in my face, but at least im on a treatment plan and my addiction was medically induced i wasnt doing them recreationally i had back problems and i took more than i was supposed to, so now i deal with the pain and take the methadone and i feel alot better than i ever have i knew i had a problem and addresssesd it he on the other hand will not. What do i do? Someone please help!!!!!!!!!!!!!!