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Hi LostMind....

I just thought I might share a portion of my past with you...

I have 4 wonderful beautiful kids, whom I adore...Their father, has more physical problems, than I could ever fathom, he is definatly a prime candidate for Pain Management....unfortunatly, before he ever got his first appointment, he had gone thru years and years of pain, going from Doctor to Doctor, begging someone, anyone, to diagnose him, let alone deal with his pain.

In 2000, after 2 years of pain management, he was on 80 mg of oxys 3 times a day plus Norco for break through pain, he was also on a slew of anti depression meds, all in all, he was perscribed 46 pills everyday.
He would go through ALL of his pain meds, a 30 day supply in FOUR days time and then began the 3 plus weeks of massive withdrawls.

It all finally reached the boiling point, when he physically attacked one of my children, I ran and hid at a friends house, this was 4 days before his next pain management appointment, the night before the appointment, a friend called and said she had gone by our apartment and saw him through the window, he was laying on the floor covered in blood, I immeadiatly called 911, they broke our front door down, and called me 20 minutes later to tell me, he was fine, he was drunk and had fallen and hit his head on the corner of the coffee table, he had refused treatment at the hospital, I then sent another friend over to see what had really happened, as he did not or had not ever drank alcohol, to my knowledge....He had taken an entire 30 day supply of physch meds at once...the friend called 911 again, the police came out, this friend showed them the bottles with the date on them, all empty, having been filled 2 days ealier, he told them he was drunk, they advised him to sleep it off and they left.

I called his pain management Doctor, the next moring, knowing his appt was at 10am and BEGGED him not to give him his meds, I told him EVERYTHING, he showed up for his appt in bloody clothes with a gash on his forhead and YES, he was given his scripts, I went to the Doctor later that afternoon and DEMANDED to know WHY?....his answer...."You have no idea what real pain is, he NEEDS those meds, for his pain".
I stopped by the apartment long enough to grab the kids birth certificates and have not seen him since that day....last I heard, he was still in pain management, still taking his meds in less than a week and mental health had him in a methadone program for the rest of the month, seemingly unconcerned that he is an addict, who is now homeless and has lost his family and his life....

I understand your pain, your rage, the feeling of helplessness, feeling like you're takeing the kids dad away from them, failing at your marriage...I too tried to dole out the meds, I too bought the timed medication safe, I too gave his meds to a friend who did not live in our home...he broke into her home at 3 am and demanded his meds at knife point, I too begged his Doctor to help him, I too watched him suffer and at the time, this was before my own addiction, did not understand his pain, but tried to "love him through it", I too ran the gamet and failed miserably...the choice is yours, but please, think of your children, my youngest was under 5 at the time and still has vivid memories of the horror his father put us all through.

I wish you only the best and my prayers are with you girl...
Angel :angel: