people guessed me as 10 years younger. I got carded at 30. Now I'm 51 and I stlil look young, however nobody goes "You're kidding!" when I tell them my age. Hmmmmmmm. They used to!!!! I don't have that many wrinkles, but I've gained some pounds; been on ATkins and lost a lot too, but I'll never be skinny again. I'm on Paxil for stress and depression and, while it helps, it makes it really hard to be really thin. I feel wrinkly and ugly, yet inside I still feel young...I even still like to look at good looking men in their 30's. If they only knew they'd think, "Oh, how gross!" lol. Is this sort of depression (and it's not really bad) part of the menopausal process? I still get my period pretty regularly, but am starting to get back pain a lot, cramps even when I don't have my period, and I used to have terrible sweating (not hot flashes). THanks to Black Cohosh and Vit. E, it's much better. I just feel like I'm getting older, yet I don't feel older and it's so frustrating. I find I like to wear comfortable clothes rather thant rendy clothes because, hey, sometimes I get aches and pains...lol. THis isn't ME. I'm YOUNG! How do you deal with this and are these symptoms common? I am still waiting to go into full menopause at 51. I exercise 30 min. 5 days a week, don't smoke and dont' drink. I'm maybe 20 lbs. overweight. I think more about my age than I ever did before. It never bothered me. Familiar? Oh,a nd the memory...we won't even go there...what did I just type? LOL. Help!