Thanks so much for the input. You have already helped a great deal. I know, I thought prozac was wrong too. I mean doesn't her doctor realize that they put her on a new anti-deppressant every time, and she is fine for a while, then she goes right back down. Your right, the shock treatments seem to help temporarily but once again, she goes right back down after anywhere from 8 months to 18 months. I think that my husband thinks it is just her personality that is so impulsive and unreasonable. It's a very touchy subject. She also becomes offended easily. Once she wanted to clean my house so I let her. I asked her to leave but she wouldn't stop. She is a complusive cleaner. She didn't leave the house until after midnight! I told her that I felt intruded upon and like she was challanging me in my own home. She got so mad she didn't talk to me for days. Then when I called her back she said "Oh, I forgive you honey. I don't hold grudges, I would ask Charlie Manson in for a bowl of soup if he came to my door." Great...compare me to Charlie Manson. LOL I don't like to upset her. And I'm always afraid that something I say or do will trigger her depression.
" She must realize she can't expect people to always back her decisions up. I have lost many a dollar on idealistic purchases, later realizing it was impulsive and unreasonable, I take full responsibility of my debts and do not want people to pity me and help me out." She doesn't realize this at all. She is in charge, and when she isn't she doesn't know what to do. That is why she got all upset when she couldn't do as she pleased at my house. I don't let her clean here anymore as a result.
"If she had had shock treatments, I highly doubt they have any long term affect if she is not being balanced with proper treatments. A stable environment will also help with her being stress free and less likely to trigger an episode. You can help her maintain this by getting her into a routine- does she work? Volunteer? And hobbies that are long lasting and not expensive? What does her typical day compose of?"
Actually, she tells me she never knows what she is going to do at the beginning of each day. That is why she has to make "surprise visitis", and only call me five minutes in advance. But I think that most of the time she is doing house work, cooking, or working outside. She can't stand if the house is not absolutely perfect inside and out. She even washes the outside of her house.
I do love her though, and she is a great grandma to my 18 month old son. To this point though I haven't let her babysit him. Am I wrong for that? I just feel a little uncomfortable with the idea. I am going to start asking her to watch him with my mom present as well.
Ok, I think I've talked enough. Give me some more input if you can please. And THank you, Thank you, thank you!!!!